Any strategies to help for my 6 yr old dd

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It appears her 'best friend' came back to school after Christmas holidays, and informed her that she wouldn't be her 'friend' anymore.

DD is heartbroken, as only 6 year olds can be.

Any words of advice or wisdom ro impart to her?

I'm always encouraging dd to have lots of 'best' friends, so that this form of bitchiness doesn't work on her. 'If X won't play with you, go and play with Y, Z or A-W.' I won't accept the concept of the single best friend because I think it makes dd too vulnerable. I know this sounds hardline, but I feel I have to get her to build her own armour. I've been appalled at what the girls used to get up to in ds' class and have vowed not to let the same happen to dd.

Poor love. Can you invite said girl to tea via her mother and see what happens? Oh, it's so horrible isn't it? You just want to be able to cope for them.

yes, I agree I want her to have lots of pals, some of the girls in her class have the potential to be very mean.. and dd is a real target.

She is very sensitive and takes things to heart in a big way (woke up screaming last night)

I too am trying to arm her, but not sure the best way to go about it.

When it happened to dd, I invited a succession of other girls round for tea, not the one who was mean to her, and especially other girls who were a bit sensitive. It just gave her other playmate options. She stills plays with the very mean girl, but not exclusively, and I think it means she's no longer a particular target. And in your case, you may be able to sort it out with your dd's best friend and make it better - she may not be as mean as my dd's so-called friend! I do feel for your dd. The one consolation when dd was very miserable about her situation was that I thought she might as well get it sorted out at the age of six, rather than still be pushed and pulled about as a teenager.

It makes me very that female children are so prone to treating each other like this - sorry if that's making my posts sound over-uppity.

thanks - good idea re inviting other girls, but
dd seems to be the most sensitive in her class though.
I don't think she has a lot of confidence (very troubled baby/toddler.. difficult relationship with me etc)which worries me greatly.
I can see how easy it is for the mean girls to pick on her (she responds to them - easy to wind up.. like me actually)

I know my role is to try and instill more confidence in her, so I guess I am looking for strategies to help me too!