Oh fuck I'm in denial

[Angel786]

my dd 11 mths starts nursery tomorrow...settling in period.

Cue the tears.

Advice? please.

Enjoy lol. Its hard when they are still little as they cant tell you what great fun they had with their new friends.

oh the bliss of a hot cup of tea, truthfully after a couple of hours you will sort of forget, work is easier than home, you never fully forget but have a cry then enjoy some time to you.

yeah - looking fwd to drinking a cup of coffee / eating lunch without my little puppy snuffling it all... but (i know - my own fault!) after 11 months almost inseperable I'll be devestated!

Take it one day at a time. You have obviously done your research and have chosen a lovely place. Are you going back to work? X

Yes running am back to work in 2 weeks. The settling in is a good idea - it has to start sometime righ!?

Little puppy?!

Wow, I think you'll be utterly inconsolable tomorrow! Seriously, try to enjoy it before you go back to work.

Keep busy! If this is settling in, then sort out everything you need to do in order to give yourself time to relax before work starts.

She may very well be fine, you however....

Keep busy.

Just try and stay positive and happy about it so your DD doesn't pick up on your anxiety. You will both be fine! Hope it goes well

Be prepared for a few tears (from both of you!). It does take time to adjust, but you will get there I promise.

Be kind to yourself and plan a few nice things before you start back at work. I found it takes a good month in the new routine to get everything going like clockWork.

Agree be prepared for tears but have faith, you both will settle before long.

She may only be 11 months now but before you bat an eyelid she'll be running in to see her friends and carers without a backward wave, and y'know what, whilst I appreciate the SAHM vs childcare dilemma, I've managed to raise 3 amazing teens who were all in part time nursery/childminders from the age of 5-6 months.

awww i remember this!
When my ds left playschool to go to the attached school, they wrote a little card saying
"Thank you so much for sharing your child with us, its been a pleasure and a joy"
Look at it that way, you are sharing her.

Now then, when i got used to it, i bloody loved it and so did he!

Don't expect too much of yourself at work, you'll be a mess first thing, when I went back I was alright until someone mentioned DS when I'd burst into tears again. Also expect lots of guilt- guilt if they're upset when you leave, and guilt if they're not too! Hope it all goes ok, as much as I hate being away from DS it is like a break sometimes.

YABU.

If the room she is in has a phone/mobile then take the number and give them a ring 15 min after you have left. They will be able to tell you that she is fine and that can give you the peace of mind to get on with your day without worrying. I've even watched through the window (well out of sight) and been able to see that DD stopped crying the moment I left.

Thanks everyone.

Thanks for sharing card - what a sweet idea!

So dd was absolutely fine - crawled off and played quite happily. Already seems she is making friends. Am sure it will be a tough couple of weeks but pleased she is fairly independent and enjoying it!