Why is it so hard being a mum?

[TambaTheDragonSlayer]

Just forced the ds's into there pjs... changed nappys, made warm milk.. got ds2 into his cot..

In 20 mins will then begin the struggle to get ds1 into bed..

3 times in the night i will be up trying to settle them again...

Early in the morning i will be up, taking off nappies, feeding, cleaning, dressing...

Housework to be done.. entertaining children..

Feeding again, cleaning again.. washing up..

Somewhere in there i manage to fit in, dressing and feeding and washing me...

Its an exhausting never ending cycle!

Can someone please remind me what the good points of being a mum are? Atm i consider it a good day if i manage to find some one to look after them for a few hours

When they look up into your eyes, and know that you know everything and can fix everything.

Sorry, that wasn't very supportive, but it is my favourite point (as well as watching them when they are finally asleep and silent ).

I'm currently enjoying the peace of ignoring DD while she jumps all over DH.

you could buy a dishwasher - we never realised how long we spent washing dishes until we got one.

When we are old and grey they will bring us cups of tea and listen to endless stories about how cute they were when they were younger

Ooh yes when he finally falls asleep I am filled with the most overwhelming sensation of love for ds...funny that isn't it?

Our kitchen is so small we cant even fit the tumble dryer in so no hope of a dishwasher

Im just fed up i think cause dh is on nights and the boys always seem to get naughtier and more argumentative, nothing i ever say is right, even things like "that car is red" gets an answer of "NOOOOOOO its NOT red" iyswim

buy a slimline one (that's what we've got) and stick it in the hall

hmm. when i'm out in my size 10 jeans and someone gasps, in shock, 'YOU have two kids?!'

tamba, you're not alone - our kitchen is too small for both separate drier or dishwasher.

If i only had one child (either one!) then it would be so much easier how bad does that sound

DS is on the go constantly unless he is asleep or for the 10 minutes he first wakes up. The best bit for me at the moment is cuddling him when hes all sleepy and just smelling him. He has a smell that makes me melt.

I really enjoy the conversations were having at the moment too. Never fails to make me laugh every day.

don't beat yourself up, tamba. it doesn't sound THAT bad! sounds pretty normal, tbh. at least to me.

i see people walking around w/older, more self sufficient children and sometimes feel pangs of jealousy.

it will get easier. They won't be in nappies forever. In fact, by the time they are teenagers, you won't see them - ever! They are far too busy with their social lives and msn. But it gets easier long before that. I'm still a scullerymaid to my two - 4 and 11months, though I can see that if they were four and six, say, life would be totally different.

Oh yes, I definately get when I see people with older kids.

it gets easier quite quickly too. mine are 5, 4 and 20 months and it's FAR easier than a year or 18 months ago. just had 2 weeks off with them and am reluctant to go back to work - most of the last few holidays I've been absolutely desperate to get back to the peace and sanity of work

Mine are 3 and 1

Its taken since my last post til now to get ds1 to bed!

I will feel better when dh is off nights. I just sometimes feel that i have had enough iyswim.

Thanks for all your words xx

I am the same at the mo and my DH doesn't come home late and helps me out!! I have a DD of 3 and a DS of 2 who is going through the terrible 2's with a vengeance and I am 14 weeks pregnant. I have been in tears most of today as I have been bitten,wacked with a blanket and shouted NO at all day. So, your not alone when you feel a little low, I think it is just part of parenting and I don't think you ever get used to it until they are 18!!!!

I am looking for ways to combat the agression of my 2yr old who is such hard work at the moment. He has also decided to get up at around 4am every morning too!!?? Any suggestions??