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Why is he doing this?

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ruthiemum · 02/01/2006 21:20

My DS1 is 3yrs and my DS2 is 3 months, all was fine up until a week ago. DS1 acting strangely, possevively all of a sudden when baby is in the room with him. Today just topped it, I was in the kitchen warming some milk up with baby in his bouncy chair and out of nowhere DS1 says "mummy 's head" and bops him when with a wooden xylophone banger thing. He didn't do it in a rage or temper, everything was fine, it was like he was thinking about it and just do it. Luckily baby calmed down and I really told DS1 off but I mean if I keep telling him off, he will just be more resentful but I have to tell him off and make him feel bad otherwise he won't know that he is doing wrong. We do spend time with them each individually, my husband works shifts so normally we are both there for them all of the day. I just don't understand DS1 sudden reaction to the baby, he's normally so loving and giving him kisses, has anybody else experience this delayed reaction to a new baby?

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Yummymummy24 · 02/01/2006 21:41

maybe now that new baby is becoming more demanding 3yr old has sussed it out that its not as fun as he thought!!!! I have 5yr old and 6 month old 5yr old went through you dont love me now/ why does athur get all the attention? at about same time. I just reassured him and gave him the your my big helper role which worked a treat!!!

soapbox · 02/01/2006 21:43

I think you jsut have to accept that you can never leave a toddler and a baby in the room together without supervision.

I think sibling rivalry is an incredibly strong emotional reaction and it's safest to assume he will try and hit his brother rather than he won't!

jalopy · 02/01/2006 21:51

Sounds really normal to me. It can take quite a while for the older sibling to accept the younger one. At three years old he's probably realising that the baby is definitely here to stay!
Don't despair, you're doing a great job. Try and include him in as much of your activities with the baby as possible. Make him feel special and responsible. Let him do little jobs for you and praise him to the hilt. It will be a trying time and there will be lots of episodes of resentment and annoyance but these will pass.

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ruthiemum · 03/01/2006 09:15

Thanks for all your replies, just was in shock yesterday as it was so out of character to do this. DS1 is back to his cuddly self today with the baby around so will see what today brings!

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