need advise plz

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I'm not sure what to do, need advise, my 3 yr old DS has been misbehaving a lot recently for my DP (not his real dad) i have just had a talk with DS on our own and he's told me he don't love daddy and he wants daddy to leave, justs love mummy and to live with mummy. I've not told DP as dont want to hurt his feelings as he loves DS but not sure what to do now, any advise would be great. Thank you in advance.

Does he think that his DP is his real Dad (inasmuch as 3 year olds can comprehend such a thing). How long have you and your DP been together - has he only recently moved in? Has anything happened to spoil their relationship? Could your DP have done anything to hurt your DS? Could someone else have said anything (grandparents, "wellmeaning" friends etc)? Have you asked him why he doesn't want to live with Daddy anymore?

Sorry, need to know a bit more because we can suggest anything.

mmm, trying not to be cynical here.... how long have you guys been together? If it has been a long time and DS's behaviour is only recent then maybe it will pass, if DP is new to your set up then, ask yourself, is there any reason to believe there could be any thing more sinister going on? Sorry to be cynical, and apologies but I would be tempted do delve into this more. Children sometimes don't have the words to express themselves. OR, maybe he feels threatened by any attention that has moved from him onto your DP? Good luck x x

Dp has been around since ds was born as a family friend but we got closer in the last year and DP moved in with us in Jan 2011, DS behaviour has been like this for the past month. When i've asked him why he don't want daddy here any more his reply is 'don't love him'. I've asked him a few times and the reply is always the same. Their relationship is very close when DS is in a good mood, they go to places like sure start together to dad's group and DP also helps out at sure start and is really good with children. I don't think anything bad has happened between the two of them.