Lunchtime supervisor problem

[Joolsy]

Can anyone give some advice please. My DD has been coming home upset a few times as the lunchtime supervisor, who also has a daughter in DD's class, has been telling her off. For instance, yesterday apparently, the daughter told a couple of other girls not to go to afterschool club as my DD was going. My DD said to her "that's mean" and this girl then told her mum who basically accused DD of lying and saying her DD would never be mean! Also last week a similar scenario but again her DD was favoured and my DD told off, even though she wasn't witness to the conversation. To complicate things, she is in my group of mum friends at the school, though I rarely see her but wouldn't want bad feeling between us. But I feel she should be unbiased when working at the school. How should I approach this?

That is why i think mums should be allowed to work in schools with their own child.
I had a similar problem with my ds and a TA who's son was in my sons class they just didnt get on and everytime they had a disagreement she would tell my ds off. i spoke to the head in the end who reminded her that at work her son is not her son but equal to everyone else.
I would speak to class teacher first then the head if nothing improves

If the woman doesn't already know that she should be impartial at work then there's probably nothing you can do - talking to the head or the class teacher is just going to make it obvious who's complained. It's very bad luck for your DD, but she's not too young to learn that sadly people aren't always nice or always fair.

This is an age old problem because it's really hard to get lunchtime supervisors. Being in school with your child is a strong motivator for some and so you get the situation you describe. I sympathise with you. It is quite surprising that the parent is working in the same area as her child and the head needs to keep an eye on her

Joolsy i would go in to the school and speak to the head not the class teacher, the lunchtime supervisor should not be favouring her child this is how conflict starts, i would ask that someone has a word as your child is becoming upset, its unproffesional on the supervisors part to be doing this. As you can guess this is my job too, and i would be pulled instantly if this was happening in my job its not allowed. you treat you child the same as everyone else, when i walk through the doors to work i cease to be mum and become nanny.

I think you should speak to your daughter's class teacher in the first instance.

She should not be doing that, and her daughter needs to be spoken to by the class teacher about bullying.

I was TA in my son's class when he was 6. I wouldn't have dreamed of favouring him or speaking to children myself. I always had a word with the teacher if I thought anything was going on and left it for her to sort out. Children used to love to tell me if my son was doing something 'wrong' ,waiting for a reaction!

I once came out of the staff room at break-time to find my son sitting on the floor with some other boys outside the HT's room. I had to walk by without any comment! (It turned out he hadn't actually done anything himself, but was caught up with the bigger group...he was mortified).

I think people who work in their own DC school are more likely to bend over backwards to not be seen to be favouring their own DC in any way.
As a rule, anyway.
Hope you sort it out, OP.

I'm not sure what to do, need advise, my 3 yr old DS has been misbehaving a lot recently for my DP (not his real dad) i have just had a talk with DS on our own and he's told me he don't love daddy and he wants daddy to leave, justs love mummy and to live with mummy. I've not told DP as dont want to hurt his feelings as he loves DS but not sure what to do now, any advise would be great. Thank you in advance.

Thanks so much everyone, I will speak to the head teacher.