What are the "rules" in your house?

[alittleteapot]

Feeling like got to fine tune ours.

Along the lines of:

We are kind and helpful to each other
We only watch 45 mins of telly a day (little children)
We don't have chocolate or ice cream every day
We don't get up after stories and sleep time
We tidy up after ourselves
No means no.

Thinking keep it simple and go from there.

What are yours (so I can nick them) and what works and what's hopeless?

All new food has to be tried before anyone is allowed to say they don't like it.

I'm Queen [grin}

i meant!

Blimey... It's much simpler in our house - mummy is in charge. That's it really.

If I get to '3' bad things happen
If there are any arguments over toys they are removed

What does happen? It's 5 here but fortunately we've never got there... I'm not sure what happens when we do

You can hold any weapon you like but if anyone gets hit with it, it gets taken away.

Diet Coke is not suitable for children.

Most other things have been worn away by exhaustion tbh.

Put your stuff away, I'm not your slave, if you don't do it, it will go in the bin.

Be kind to one another, no hurting or shouting.

No shoes, food or drink upstairs, except water at night.

Homework before tv.

Wash your hands after the toilet / before eating [veteran of D&V bugs with emetophobic DH]

My little one has just turned 2 so there's no major rules as such yet.

In saying that, there's probably more than I'm aware of.

Keep out of the kitchen when I'm cooking.

Bedroom toys back in toybox before coming for breakfast.

Please's, thank you's and pardons.

All food to be eaten at the table.

No climbing.

No touching (lots of things)

Shouting and running around like a loon is for outside, not inside.

Lots of kisses and cuddles before bed.

Most of it works without question. He knows not to touch anything that isn't 'his' and toys belong in boxes when not playing anymore. Learning manners are an ongoing thing.... he mostly remembers but there are occasions I need to remind him which I don't worry about at his age.

Ummm the running is probably the hardest for him to grasp. Well, he does grasp it but he's obviously sometimes so full of energy he doesn't seem to be able to help it (so I let it slide to the point where it seems he's losing control and about to go head first into something).

We go out nearly every day for him to be able to run and burn energy so I do expect that the couple of hours before bed should be calmer.

belle - who knows?

Do what you are told WHEN you are told
Basic civility in all social interaction is a minimum requirement
Mother is not spelt s-l-a-v-e
no slamming doors
you must try new food, and 5 peas does not a portion of veg make

If u want to speak to me come into the room where I actually am and speak to me!!!
No answering back.
When I say tv/ xbox off then that's what I mean!!
No shoes worn indoors.
Keep the stairgate shut!!!! (keeping dogs in kitchen)
When I give u a time to be home then be home by that time!!!

Tidy up your own toys otherwise they will go in the bin. Always works.
Furniture is not part of a soft play place.
Please, Thank You's etc.
When I get to 3, I get v. angry.
Do what you are told, first time of asking, not the 57,0000th.

That's it.

We have rules written up and stuck on the kitchen noticeboard. One of my children is autistic and needs to see those rules and be reminded of them every day.

We started off with three house rules and gradually have extended it to 10, adding extra rules every few weeks when the kids have 'learned' the old ones. They are all phrased positively, rather than 'No this' or 'Don't do that".

If Mum starts opening the secone bottle of wine before she's finishing cooking dinner, start agreeing with absolutely everything she says

Mummy is in charge.
Underpants as a minimum at the dinner table.
Stop bugging the dog.
Sort it out yourselves.

we have

-shoes off at the door
-any sort of party blower, whistle, trumpet, vuvuzela or other noise making thing is for outside only and if blown indoors it goes in the bin.
-uniform off straight after school then snack then homework, then you can do what you want
-everybody puts their own washing in the basket (working on getting them to bring it down to machine but i am back logged ATM)
-pets are family, not toys (they are very good at this)

there are probably more, i just cant think.

oh yes and

always tell the truth. always. mum wil stay calm if you tell the truth, no matter what it is. if you lie...there are no guarantees.

I have routines like teeth, bath and bed, no sweets just before dinner.

I try to avoid rules as such. You only end up having to enforce them and I think parents get themselves into all kinds of difficulties with that.

Loving the ones where mum's in charge and that's it. Wish it were that simple in our house! Those of you that have very tight discipline when did it kick in? tigerlilly VERY impressed that your little one is so good at tidying at such a young age.Where did I go wrong??

No shoes indoors
Don't touch Walls
Tidy toys away before we leave house/ go to bed/ get more toys out
If you don't share the toy it gets taken away
Manners
Everyone helps cleaning

We do something every day - ie swim, park etc

Food at the table unless it's snacks

alittleteapot He might turn out to be the messiest ever teen! I don't hold my breath! I started him young though - I think even around 12 months old he was putting a toy or 2 away at my request. I encouraged him to join in with me then. Now it's more of a "can you be a good boy and pick those toys up for mummy please" and it's done. He doesn't always do a perfect job but always does the majority so I ignore the 1 or 2 toys that sometimes remain and give praise just for the fact he followed my request.

He does seem to enjoy it - we went to a play group today where they'd all been playing with lots of balls and we were the ones left at the end while he picked up all the balls and put them back in the box. I didn't ask him but he seemed to want to so I let him. I think he sees it more as a game than a chore... which means it won't be as fun in time!

I think I break all your rules OP

Mine are:

no shoes in house
no food in bedroom
no torturing the cat
always tell Mum the truth

Be nice to each other
no shouting at each other
please & thank you
meals eaten at the table
no food upstairs
no answering back, do as i say

my dc are 11 & 9, all rules are broken regularly (except no meals at table) especially the no answer back.
Whatever rules you set EXPECT them to be broken so ahve your punishments at the ready!

Also:

No Googling unless Mum or Dad in the room
No bugs indoors/mud potions indoors
No answering of door