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tricksy departures - advice please

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zuperdoopadooo · 07/11/2011 22:42

my DD almost 7 is difficult when i need to go to work and leave her friends. This is quiet a recent issue but is becoming unmanageable as I work unconventional hours due to being a freelance. I need now to organise local childcare that isn't with friends ( as everyone has their own lives) but am afraid how she will react. It could be to be a control issue but i am not sure how to handle it. I am a single mum she see's her dad twice a week, our weeks change from week to week and she seems to accept that. She is a very confident girl and this seems so out of character but she cries and clings onto me so i cant leave.. which is heart breaking and annoying all in one go as i need to work!! I often talk her through it, and even try to bribe her but that doenst seem to have much leverage 'in the moment'. I would be grateful of any info i should consider or a plan of action to make departures a breeze

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MackerelOfFact · 08/11/2011 10:13

Is she unhappy with the childcare? It sounds like it might just be that she's not settled in with the childminder and doesn't get on with one of the children there or something. Is it definitely that she doesn't want you to go, or more that she wants you to take her away/home/elsewhere because she doesn't like it there? At 7 you should be able to discuss this with her and either address the issues that are upsetting her or decide to change the childcare arrangements.

It might also be control, as you say, or just attention-seeking. Do you know how long she stays upset for after you've left?

An0therName · 08/11/2011 12:59

I would say if you can get more of a routine it would bevery helpful -my DS1 is very confident but can be awful if doesn't know what is happening - or go though it start of each week and then confirm it each day
and I wonder if after school club/childminder where she goes straight there from school mught be easier on you both -
or is it evening and weekends she is going to childcare

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