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Would you leave a 3 yo for 3 nights?

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DitaVonCheese · 05/11/2011 22:22

I need to go for a three day training course away from home at the end of November. DS will be about four months then so obviously needs to nurse quite often, so DH is coming too to basically sit with him in a hotel lobby and bring him in to me when necessary.

We also have a 3 yo DD, who has only been away from us for 3 nights ever (including tonight!) and only ever for one night at a time. She is also still bfing though was fine without it when I was away for another course in October. I think trying to keep her entertained in a hotel lobby for 3 days would be pretty hellish for DH and obviously he can't go far when he is looking after DS. We were therefore wondering about leaving DD with her GPs for the 3 nights while we are away but not sure if it will be too much for her. She has a great relationship with her granny and specifically asked to stay there tonight, just not sure if 3 days is too long.

Alternative is that GPs come and stay in a self-catering place nearby to entertain DD during the day, but seems a bit excessive (if more fun for everyone involved).

She is my PFB, obviously Wink

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RitaMorgan · 05/11/2011 22:26

I'm leaving 1 year old DS with his grandparents for two nights next weekend. I'm sure she'll be fine.

girliefriend · 05/11/2011 22:30

tbh the whole set up sounds a bit ......Hmm your dh is happy to sit in a hotel lobby for 3 days?! Really? Why do you have to do the training when your baby is so little?

I wouldn't be too worried about the 3yo, she will have a lovely holiday with her gps but I think trying to do a training course while you are constantly worrying about whether your baby needs feeding or is o.kay sounds pointless imo!

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DitaVonCheese · 05/11/2011 22:30

Do you leave him often? We've only been leaving DD since DS was born 3 months ago (the night he was born was the first time she stayed at GPs).

I think I probably am being a bit PFBish about this but so worried that we'll leave GPs with hysterical DD with us several hours away!

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winnybella · 05/11/2011 22:33

Oh, she'll be fine. She'll have a lovely time with her GM spoiling her. Really, that's not even a question Smile

I remember when I was little, I always went to my GM for the weekend, I loved it. Also, you can call her every day to reassure her.

DitaVonCheese · 05/11/2011 22:34

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RitaMorgan · 05/11/2011 22:35

DS has stayed 3 nights (1 night at a time) since he was 6 months - he's 15 months now.

fivegomadindorset · 05/11/2011 22:37

Yes.

jamandposterpaint · 05/11/2011 22:37

I wouldn't.

BertieBotts · 05/11/2011 22:37

I think she will probably be fine. I had to go into hospital recently and DS stayed with DP, who lives with us, but had only lived here for about 2 months. He'd only been away overnight twice before, first time was a disaster, second time was fine. When I was in hospital he was with DP for two nights and about 3 days in total and he barely even missed me! He was much more traumatised that his CM had someone drilling in her house on the day he spent there.

thisisyesterday · 05/11/2011 22:38

yes i think she will be fine with her grandparents. she'll have a great time!

LeninGrad · 05/11/2011 22:40

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MegBusset · 05/11/2011 22:40

I'm sure it will be absolutely fine! We left the DC (2 and 4) with the GPs for two nights recently to go to a wedding and they loved it, would have been fine for a third night although I think my parents needed a rest by then Grin

Savonarola · 05/11/2011 22:44

I would have no qualms about such a short separation, provided you are happy with how the GPs will look after her. If they have a good relationship, they'll have a lovely time.

PeppaPigandGeorge · 05/11/2011 22:50

Well, lots of people leave older children of around that age when they go off to have a new baby, don't they? Your PFB will be fine!

TuttoRhino · 05/11/2011 22:54

I'm planning on leaving my DD (will be 2.7 at time) in January for 3 nights with my GPs. They'll all be staying at our house.

She spent 2 nights with them this summer and handled it beautifully. So much so that I was really upset during a Skype conversation on the last day and she showed no signs of missing me.

TuttoRhino · 05/11/2011 22:55

Sorry make that her GPs not mine. Doubt my 89 year old Granny could handle her.

Tryharder · 05/11/2011 22:57

Your older daughter will be fine and have a lovely time. She will have a dreadful time if you make her hang around in a hotel lobby with your DH and a 4 month old baby.

If it makes you feel better, I have done something similar although my DD was 8 months old at the time and it worked well.

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DitaVonCheese · 05/11/2011 23:54

Grin look at me having a post deleted - I've been here for four years but only just now feel that I've arrived Wink

Thanks for the replies (and Grin at Tutto - not sure my 92 yo gran would cope either). Tbh am also worried about wearing my parents out! DD probably would be fine but might see about parents-nearby option as well, if only because it will be easier on them.

I've also just gone and dug out my 3 yo breast pump, partly because my right boob is about to explode with DD away, also because it would give DH a bit more freedom if DS will take milk from a bottle (DD never did).

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thisisyesterday · 06/11/2011 10:31

what did you have deleted???? i don't remember you saying anything awful?

banana87 · 06/11/2011 10:52

Leave her, she will love it! Grin

We left DD for 3 nights with my mom over the summer. She was 2.11 then. It was the first time leaving her and I was scared shitless but she was absolutely fine and loved all the attention she got from her grandma.

teacoupons · 06/11/2011 10:54

She'll love it, she really will. I'd have an issue with it but she'd be well away.

An0therName · 06/11/2011 11:14

Honestly leaving with GP sounds much the best opition for everyone - she will be fine -my DS1 has been to visit GP for about that long at that age - loved it and the alternatives sound really horrid - even the self catering would be quite complicated - unless you all stayed there - and your company would bay for it instead of hotel?
we some times got the odd bit of bad behaviour when we got back
does she go to preschool - as then one option would be GP come and stay at your place and she goes to preschool as normal which would be less tiring for us
or one time we found a pre school that took my DS for a short time

BluddyMoFo · 06/11/2011 11:19

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DitaVonCheese · 06/11/2011 19:17

Grin at BluddyMoFo Much as I love him, would be nice to leave DS for three days too ... my boobs would explode though.

yesterday I feel like I should make up something much more interesting but I just mentioned the name of the franchise I'm doing training with and apparently several people reported me for advertising. It made me feel very naughty, might go and buy a Rav4 Grin

Thanks all, will talk to my parents/mum and see how they feel about three days of unbridled DD.

(Yesterday she begged to stay at granny's, stayed all night without a peep and today I didn't see her until nearly 4 pm, when she really wasn't too fussed about seeing me Hmm Grin so I'm feeling more like maybe she's ready.)

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thisisyesterday · 06/11/2011 19:40

oh how strange!

are we not allowed to mention who we work for and stuff like that now then? or any company at all? ever?

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