Son driving me to the looney bin.

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My youngest is 2.9 and is driving me mental. his tantrums have seemed to get so much worse in the past few weeks. Yesterday was constant tantrums. He threw a tantrum before toddler group for an hour then I had a SALT appointment with him in the afternoon and he went mental in the doctors surgery and by the time the therapist had seen him he was bright red, sweating and hitting himself so I had to cancel the appointment and arrange a home visit.

I got outside and he stopped. This morning he threw a tantrum while taking my eldest to nursery and lay down at the front door while the other parents stepped over him as he kicked them. I tried to pick him up but he went all floppy and he weighs a tonne! ended up harassed to death and finding myself losing it.

I really don't like him sometimes- i'm ashamed to admit it but he's just such hard work.

There's no pleasing him- he just throws hissy fits. I've been really withdrawn the past few weeks as I dread spending any time with him. hard due to the fact i'm a SAHM.
Have tried talking to partner but he works horrendous hours and there's nothing he can do to help.

I'd just quite like to give him back now- feel as though i'm done.

Anyone have any suggestions??
Help really appreciated!

Is the SALT appointment prompted by the tantrums or by something else entirely? Does he nap in the afternoons? Sleep well during the night? What's his diet like? Many tantrum episodes can be traced back to tiredness. Some to poor nutrition. Others are pure attention-seeking. Maybe keep a diary for a few days that records amount of sleep he's had, food he's eaten, what triggers the outbursts and what time of day they happened. See if there are any patterns.

Yes - distress-tantrums should be comforted but get-your-own-way tantrums should be ignored. It sounds like frustration, tbh - presumably the SALT therapy is because his language development is a bit slow? He's perhaps desperate to communicate. Do you have ways of communicating other than speech? He may find toddler groups immensely stressful too - IME about two in five toddlers don't really like them. You could ditch that for a while.

This is going to sound tough but - the way things are at the moment clearly isn't working for you or him. You need to change something.

We went to SALT with my little boy too and it is stressful..we got a book called It Takes Two to Talk and it has some great tips and exercies that go along with the SALT sessions too..it really helped us and now ds is talking a bit more his temper tamtrums have lessened. It is a bit expensive but a tip!-if you buy it you can sell it on on Amazon it seems to go for more! x Sorry was going to give you a link but can't remember the place I got it- it was online, a place which sold all sorts of books on speech therapy and also special needs...