I have had a very bad morning with my 2 yr old

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I am so tired at the moment and seem to be losing it with my 2 year old dd. I am normally loving and patient and would never smack.

This morning she kicked me in the face with her shoes on, just having a tantrum about leaving the house, but I snapped and smacked her on the bum. Okay it wasn't hard and it was through a coat and trousers but still I feel terrible.

Then just as I had made a nice lunch that would have been better eaten hot she had done a poo all over her clothes and up her back. Changing her nappy is a nightmare. I lost it and swore at her and said it was disgusting and she should use the potty

She was upset and kept saying 'sorry mummy'. I calmed down gave her a hug and said I was very sorry and that it wasn't disgusting at all, just a poo. This is so unlike me and I think dd is a bit confused that I am being so angry. I am drained though. Jumping Beans was a nightmare, she will not listen and just flings herself off the equipment. It wrecks my back as I have to constantly hold her and guide her. She runs off, will not stay with me and will throw herself on the floor at the slightest dispute. She is heavy and getting her dressed in the morning is a battle too.

Argh! I feel like the worst mother ever and have probably given her toilet issues now

I know it is a crap excuse but your tired. I lost it on Sunday too but being Sunday i had DH to take DS and allow myself to breathe. Do you have some to take your DD for a little while so you can have a little time?

I wouldn't worry too much she's just two and probably won't remember...maybe it might be better to try an open gym session or softplay so you don't have to guide her and she can have a runaround? Those kind of things are so much better when they are about 3. (the following directions ones)

thanks lovelybath and mrspear

She has slept and I feel a bit better. Yes I think an open gym session would be better - will look out for that. I maybe started it a bit young (she was just two) as I was keen to do something with her when my eldest had started school. But I feel we aren't enjoying it, so it may not be worth it. She does have good concentration, loves her books and drawing, but she is finding this difficult. She also tires very easily (like her mum!). I have a ds who could do this, then run around a park and still not be tired! They are so different. I feel this is a bit much for her physically.

I am sick of the nappy drama. I certainly don't want to impose potty training if she isn't ready but she hates doing it in her nappy and then we have hysterics when it comes to being changed.

It has just been a bad morning. I adore my little girl, so full of passion for life and fun. I can't bare that I have hurt her . Anyway onwards and upwards.

I lost my temper with 2yo DS today and usually never would. Over almost exactly the same things too.

Lots of cuddles and apologies from me but I still feel shit.

It happens. No advice, just solidarity from similarly knackered mother of an 'intrepid' toddler

thanks thousandDenier - Sorry you have had such a morning too. motherhood can be hard

I'd give her a day or two nappyless and see if she gets the hang of the potty. Also, the Jumping Beans thing sounds awful - why not ditch it if neither of you enjoys it?? She may have not wanted to go and struggling over getting dressed was her way of communicating that.

My ds has two inset days next week, so no school. Might try her nappyless then when the pressure of school run is off. Yes going to ditch Jumping Beans. She always seems excited to go and does enjoy certain aspects - the singing and actions for example. But yes will just leave it for now. Just annoyed I paid for a block until xmas

Sounds familiar. I've got a two year old too. Nappy changes often end up with us both in tears. Trying to dress him is futile, as soon as I fet one garment on he's removed another. His irrationality and contraryness make me despair. I said to DP the other day that his default reaction to anything, literally anything is to wail 'no' and cry

Just a few weeks ago he was a kind, gentle, obliging sweet boy. Now I look forward to the times he's not here, at nursery etc. Then the guilt kicks in and breaks my heart

Sorry no advice but you're not alone [weak teary smile]

If dd gets herself undressed after I've dressed her then I let her run around like that. She knows what to do if she's cold. They do like practising dressing and undressing themselves at this age, and it's good for them to learn.

Just wanted to say I had a 'mummy-melt-down' yesterday. I hate the feeling guilty & crappy afterwards....especially when my DS is such a wonderful little boy. It helps to know I am not alone...

Not just me then? I am being driven a bit demented by a nine day half term with three dc and was the ranty ridiculous mother by the time we got home today. I am too embarrassed to detail the whole thing, but let's just say I'm glad it wasn't filmed for super nanny. I am exhausted from all three dc being up before six, and dd2, 4 months, having three feeds last night. God - if tomorrow isn't better . But obviously it will be because there's a school and Pre school . I am with you all in spirit (could be literally soon as will likely to hit gin if everyone not asleep soon!

It's just awful isn't it? I come on MN today because I am sobbing non-stop since the DTDs (2.6) FINALLY went to sleep today. Every single day is just one battle after another about clothes, teeth, breakfast, leaving the house, getting back in the car to come home, having lunch, going down for nap.....
I'm exhausted (they are not sleeping well at the moment) and I am shouting and losing my temper really badly with them. They are potty training and doing really well but I find it difficult even to celebrate their sucesses with them because it's all so bloody hard.
I'm trying to do as best I can as much of the time - so as many hugs and stories and whatever they want when I am able to try and make up for shouty mummy, but it still feels really crap.

Never mind OP. We all lose it sometimes. My mother lost it a lot but she was very good at saying sorry after and making up. It's those moments I now remember, not her shouting at me.

Incidentally I am now good at saying sorry and making up with my DH and never sulking/doing the silent treatment. You are actually teaching your DD sth important!

Tomorrow is always another day and children are extremely forgiving. Your DD will still think the world of you and you can't damage her for life via one afternoons impatience.

I'm so glad I read this. Its nice to know I'm not alone my daughter is exacly the same. Sometimes I feel at the end of my teather. Everything seems like a battle sometimes. Its just tantrum after tantrum.

All children this age must be having one of those days today - and us parents feeling tired!

My little one has just turned 2 and we've not had any 'moments' for a few months now! I know that's extremely good and I should be more than grateful!

However, he's been a little monkey today and I've put him in time out 4 times! However, I'm feeling a bit deflated because I don't know if all occasions actually warranted time out or whether I was just impatient because I'd been awake most of the night! I think it was me more than him and now he's in bed I'm sitting here feeling extremely guilty! Especially as I should be thankful today isn't a regular occurance and I should have given him a bit of leeway.

I think we all go through it at some point though and tiredness is usually the problem!