My 14 DD1 stealing money from me.

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I noticed it on my bank account few weeks ago, it was very odd from Amazon, so I wrote to them to found out, they replied it was not fraud ? it was somebody from household. OK. I asked my DD1, she said it was her. Now I got more purchases from itunes, WHSmith and Amazon. All together she spent £123.
I am going to block my card in the morning, what else shall I do?
Any advice please?
She have pocket money since she was 6, £5 a week, now she gets £10 a week.
I feel so sad :(

At the very least she must pay you back that £123 from her weekly allowance of a tenner

What was her reaction to you when you asked her about this? Did she realise that she was stealing from you or does she think that stealing is taking money from your purse?

Are you going to take/send all the things back or do anything to make sure she doesn't get what she bought? And are you going to punish her over and above this - maybe get a local pcso to talk to her?

Have smaller kids so not had to deal with this yet, so no useful advice but hope it all gets sorted...

personally, I would also sell on every single thing she has used your card to buy fraudulently

how did she get access to it, btw ?

AnyPhantomFucker I think, she took my debit card

zipzap she was very upset and sorry, so I never ever expected that she spent even more!

DD did this with phone top-up, started off as 5 each time but it all added up and turned into 40

You need to make it clear to her that a debit card is the same as cash, ask her if she'd take £123 out of your purse, I bet you'd say no. I personally made DD feel awful, it was vile of her to just help herself to money out of DH's hard earned bank account- call me harsh, but I made sure she knew she was as much as a thief as if she was taking out of his wallet.

Needless to say, she never did it again.

oh yes, alloutte, a very sharp shock is required

no point pussyfootying around this one

I went through a spate of stealing in my early teens (god it's embarrassing to admit).

DM made me pay it all back with chores and pocket money, write a letter to a shop, sat me down and had a Very Serious Talk about money and honesty and then asked me if anything was wrong in my school/personal life which was almost as bad as the Very Serious Talk. I denied it all but looking back I'd just started at a new school and I was very discombobulated. Not that that excuses it but it was out of character as it sounds for your DD.

I don't know if those steps would work for your DD but they were very effective with me.

allouette