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How to stop other children being pushy and controlling towards my children?

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Cleek · 31/10/2011 13:09

Of course my dcs aren?t perfect. Anyway it is about my friend?s dd who is very manipulative and controlling towards my dds. Unfortunately they go to the same school etc so it is impossible to avoid contacts everyday. I accept children have conflicts. But her dd seems to always set out to target and upset a child at a time on purpose if not my dds it will be another child. So often we have a crying child in the group but seldom her dd. In school her dd try to stop my dd having any friend/s as well. But the main problem is that my friend doesn?t seem to do anything about her dd as long as her dd doesn?t get hurt. I try to be calm on the surface at the same time tell my dds to have as little to do with her dd as possible. This is beginning to cause tension between the adults now. What should I do? Sorry for a rather long message.

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PinkPoncho · 31/10/2011 13:25

There is a child like that in my ds' class and I'm not sure if this is the right way to deal with it but I just try and suggest us getting home or going to the park (somewhere where they're not going) just keep a distance for a while. Maybe ask a different child round for tea, ask your dd if there's anyone new they'd like to invite for a change? Don't make a big thing of it perhaps, just subtly 'move on' for a while? And maybe take your friend for a drink / cuppa and see if anything has happened to affect her dd..maybe is something the dd needs support with/change in her life perhaps.

Cleek · 31/10/2011 14:39

Thanks PinkPoncho - The trouble is this has be for a long while now. But it gets worse as her dd gets older. It becomes more a problem as this year my dd and her dd are put in the same class. I have doing just what you said recently.

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thisisyesterday · 31/10/2011 14:42

why not have a chat with the class teacher, explain what's going on and that it has been happening for a while and just ask them to keep an eye on the pair of them?

how old is your dd?

out of school i would just avoid as much as possible, or tell your daughter to ignore her if she is being unkind

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