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very anxious about baby in own room

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Annpan88 · 27/10/2011 20:11

7 month old dS is in his own room tonight. I know its time. We're waking him up and deep down it feels like the right thing to do. I'm just a bit glum. Did anyone else feel sad and anxious when they did this?

:( thanks

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MagnumIcecreamAddict · 27/10/2011 20:23

I used to spend ages just listening to my DS breathe through the monitor when I first left him on his own to sleep!

He'll be fine, you'll sleep better and in less time than you can believe possible it'll be "mama up now" loudly through the monitor/door and you'll wonder what you were worrying about.

I did feel sad though. Still sneak in occasionally to the spare bed when he's off colour and secretly quite enjoy sharing a room again.

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Annpan88 · 27/10/2011 20:29

Haha thanks good to know others are the same. We tried for a bit when he first turned 6 months to see if it would improve sleep all round. It didn't, I ended up sleeping in the chair in his room or getting into some weird pattern of checking, getting into bed, getting up and checking and so on and so forth! I felt like I was going insane!

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CitizenOscar · 27/10/2011 20:51

I wept the first night Blush

I even posted on mn about it. People kept telling me we'd all sleep better. For us, it isn't true but it's ok.

I just have to remember to wear socks in bed so I don't get ice-block feet when I have to get up in the night!

And it is reeeeaally nice to be able to have normal volume adult conversations with my dh in our room.

Hang in there, you'll get used to it.

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Annpan88 · 27/10/2011 21:23

It was getting to thje point where I was yelling at DH for rolling over Blush

It really does help hearing that other people were the same, other people have said how they couldn't/cant wait till their DC can sleep in their own room and it makes me feel like a loon!

I think DH was concerned that DS would be sleeping in with us till he was a teenager Grin

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InmaculadaConcepcion · 27/10/2011 21:44

I often ended up in DD's room (in the spare bed) for the first two or three months after we moved her out of our room. She still woke in the night, so often I would simply stay put after resettling her. But if I had trouble sleeping, I would sneak in and bed down in her room even if she hadn't woken. I think that nocturnal physical closeness to your baby is something both parties often need weaning from, parent and child!

Now DD is 21 months and I take a much harder line - she stays in her bed and I stay in mine! Needless to say, we're both sleeping better now.

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Annpan88 · 28/10/2011 08:44

Hiya! Thanks everyone it went really well! He only woke up twice (a big improvement on the 5 or 6 times when in with us) and one of those times was when I checked on him!

I slept in my own bed and resisted the urge to check every 2 mins, thank you

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Natzer · 28/10/2011 09:16

Why don't you get yourself a video monitor and a movement sensor? They are amazing!! Gives you such a piece of mind being able to see them.

I had a video monitor and my dd was in her own from 6 weeks because she was such a noisey sleeper. She is now 6 months and now she can roll she sleeps on her front which scares the hell out of me but with the movement monitor I feel alot better.

CogitoErgoSometimes · 28/10/2011 09:58

No... never felt like that. Couldn't wait to get Old Snuffler out of my room because it was like sleeping alongside a small warthog. His bed and my bed are only separated by a single wall. There was that Shock moment the first night he slept through ... woke up feeling refreshed for the first time in weeks and wondered what was wrong!

matana · 30/10/2011 15:59

Felt extremely sad the first night (where did all that time go?!) but not really anxious, although i did have the monitor wedged to my ear quite a lot to hear him breathing! It gave my DH and I our bedroom back and meant we slept in the same bed again (i was still on maternity leave and my DH was working so he'd been in the spare room a lot) which was a big bonus. The next thing i felt said about was weaning him. And the next thing was going back to work. Life is a series of firsts and lasts, sad but also exciting and joyful as you see your LO's personality shine through.

georgie22 · 30/10/2011 16:27

I worried about it but did it just after dd was 6 months and she has been fantastic. She was in a crib in our room which was just not big enough for her by that stage (she's a lanky baby!) and she was waking herself up when she tried to turn. She's slept through every night bar about 2 since then and she's 1 now. She loves her bed and we loved the normality of being able to read, talk etc. in our room.

Ragwort · 30/10/2011 16:31

Didn't worry me at all and I have to agree with Cogito - in fact my DS did go in his own room after about four nights (yes, I know the guidelines say 6 months - so don't flame me Grin) - we all slept much better !

Fizzylemonade · 31/10/2011 22:45

We had a movement sensor with ds1 who is now 8, and then a camera monitor for ds2 who is now 5. They both had reflux so I worried myself stupid that they would choke on their own vomit.

Ds2 was worse as he had reflux until he was 4! In the end exhaustion just took over and I could sleep the whole night Grin

It is natural to worry about everything your child does.

lovechoc · 01/11/2011 19:22

ds2 got moved into his own room just recently at 15 mo, and also same as you I felt this was the right time for him. And yes I do feel really sad but know it's best for everyone now. Another milestone.

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