She's always been super energetic and very demanding, until recently didn't have any inclination to play independently. Always (from tiny baby) very opinionated and quite needy of my time. I'm pretty consistent about lots of things: sugary foods and crisps, telly only at certain times, but in other ways I've always used the reason with her approach - partly cos it seemed like all that worked as well as my natural way. e.g. well it's up to you - you can go out with dirty teeth or clean teeth (always caves and brushes teeth.) But just watched her bossing around another adult and suddenly felt horrified that she's allowed to be in charge too much. Is it too late to get a bit stricter? She's just started school and is blooming at the structure and discipline that comes with it. Is it too late to have a bit more of this at home??? One of the things is endless let's pretend games in which she tells people what to say or do. I've explained it needs to be a two way thing and she does now say "you can say whatever you want." but it's impossible to say no to anything and her just accept it without a long fight. It's exhausting and I'm bit worried is my fault. I guess part of it is just being a bright four year old girl and I don't want to crush her confidence, but...