I know most children have grown out of tantrums at this age, but my 8 year old hasn't. As a rule, she has at least one a day, today's was because I caught her about to wallop her 5 year old sister in soft play and I made her come and sit with me for the last 10 minutes we were there, rather than being allowed to go and play.
If you were one of the parents sitting near our table, I can only apologise for the scene that followed :( In the end she refused to put her shoes and coat on to leave so I got my 9 year old to carry them while I 'helped' DD back to the car with no shoes on.
Most tantrums occur when she's asked to do something she doesn't like, even thinking about having to do something she doesn't feel like doing will cause screaming, crying, pleading not to have to do it, saying she doesn't want to, telling me I hate her, noone likes her etc, etc
This can go on for from a few minutes to up to half an hour.
She doesn't tantrum at school anymore, she had a few last year, and more the year before but used to do it a lot when she started school, which shows she has some control of it.
She does cry though, if she gets something wrong, or is in trouble. She's also a bit of a drama queen, but when she's tantruming she is really worked up and upset.
Her teacher last year said that if she was doing badly at school they might have her assessed for something but she's in the top sets for everything and they are very pleased with her. I would say she is not very socially aware, she doesn't read body language well and is awful for touching people all the time, when it really not appropriate.
It's only at home she's a nightmare.
Has anyone had a child like this who settled down eventually? Or did you find something that helped? I'm feeling a little worn down by it, especially as I have a three year old who likes to throw a tantrum when his big sister does.