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How old was your lo when you first left them overnight?

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Devilscelery · 10/10/2011 10:34

Just wondering how old your lo was when you first left them overnight? Dd is 1 and we r thinking of staying overnight at hotel but I'm nervous about leaving her.

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Peachy · 11/10/2011 14:07

3 months for honeymoon but I hated it and would not hav e done for any lesser reason or I had not been very ill having him and in genuine need of recuperation. had to leve ds1 and ds2 for work every month with DH

Have yet to leave ds4 (3.5) overnight and only ds3 (8) twice which says it all really

Lisatheonewhoeatsdrytoast · 11/10/2011 14:08

Never have yet, DS is 2.10 I am very at those who have family members that take their DC's over a night here and there, nobody has even offered me yet Never mind...more quality time with DS

Thzumbiewitch · 11/10/2011 14:09

I left DS at home with DH alone for the first time overnight when he was 2 and 2weeks old. I had to stay in hospital for 2 nights. It went ok but he did ask (a lot) where I was. Likeablackflame - not really odd in my circs - DS had co-slept with me from 0-6m, and then again from 18m onwards (due to emigrating and all sorts of issues) - and DH had never had to do the bedtime routine or get him to sleep until that point. Not everyone is the same, you know.

We both left DS at home for the first time with Grandma staying overnight (better than going to hers) when he was 3 and 1 week (Christmas party 2 hours away) and he was fine. We just did it again last weekend for the second time with Grandma staying overnight here. A couple of weeks ago, we were all away visiting DH's relatives - we stayed in a hotel but Grandma stayed with the rellies and she had DS stay at theirs with her for one night, no problem.

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kickingking · 11/10/2011 14:19

4.5 years with gps

DH thinks I'm strange but I don't like it.

suiledonn1 · 11/10/2011 14:42

Think I left dd1 with DH for a night when she was about 1 and the same with dd2.

Left them with MIL overnight this summer dd1 was almost 5 and dd2 was 2.5. First time they had spent a full night without either me or DH.

notso · 11/10/2011 15:01

Can't remember how old DD was over 9 months I would say.
DS1 was 4 months, went to DH's work Christmas party. DS1 was not BF by then and slept through th night.
DS2 was 7 months, DH and I had two consecutive child free weddings!

DD's friend was 10 when she first stayed away from her Mum.

TheLaineyWayIsEssex · 11/10/2011 15:25

6 mos exactly - with gps, he loved it. Then last month when he was 9 mos we went abroad to a wedding for 2 nights and ds stayed with gps. i found that hard though and am not ready to do it again in a hurry.

unfitmother · 11/10/2011 16:30

Likeablackflame I certainly wouldn't count leaving the dcs with their father!
Whilst DS was 9 years old before he spent a night away from his parents I left them at home with their Dad and some EBM from maybe 9 months old whilst I did a night shift 2 miles away.
Is that you meant OP?

matana · 12/10/2011 08:36

We left our DS with other people when we went out for the day and weren't back until he was in bed, but then we brought him home with us. He only recently stayed at my parents' for the night at 10.5 months. I think I would have left him sooner if he hadn't been such an inconsistent sleeper for so long - he often wakes at 5am, but i know to leave him to chatter to himself and he'll go back to sleep. When he slept at my parents he had them awake at 5am He didn't sleep through until 7.5 months either so i didn't want to put on people.

But they loved it and he loved it. I was worrying too much about inconveniencing other people, but my parents are great and more than capable of coping.

dearheart · 12/10/2011 15:33

My youngest was nearly three; I think my eldest was five. Some people seem fine with doing this; others don't. Just do whatever you want.

sprinkles77 · 12/10/2011 15:54

left DS over night at my parents from 8 weeks. Would have left him earlier but they said they wouldn't have him if he was likely to need a feed in the middle of the night. FF of course though, not BF.

DizzyCow63 · 12/10/2011 16:13

DS was 13 weeks when I had to go into hospital for emergency surgery, he was with DP, but otherwise he hasn't been left with anyone, more because we have no-one to leave him with even if we wanted to, although neither of us do yet.

Happylander · 12/10/2011 16:18

4 weeks old to go on works night out. Huge family and never considered it a worry we were always staying with relatives. My mum had no complaints in getting up to feed him either and now does my childcare while I work a long day and 2 nights in a row (husband doesn't live me during week).

I have never had a problem leaving him with friends or family as I wouldn't leave him with anyone I wouldn't trust actually I don't let the MIL have him at all on her own but that is another story. Plus he loves it and has absolutely no issues being left at all probably because he gets to eat things I wouldn't give him LOL..
Seriously he knows no different and does not have any anxiety issues because he knows we are coming back.

The only problem I have is friends/family moaning that they don't get to have him often enough

Happylander · 12/10/2011 16:21

Reading that back it sounds like I leave him a lot..I don't..which is why I get moaned at. Just when we want to go out or away every now and then.

lljkk · 13/10/2011 16:48

Don't have any willing family so basically never.

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