The Sunday before going back to school, we had bed-time tears from DSD. We assumed this was simple nerves and settled her down and got her to sleep. We've since had tears and misery quite literally every morning, afternoon and evening. It's been 10 days of this now and we just don't know what to do with her.
She says nothing's wrong at school - the teacher's fine, the work's good. She's really pleased with the work she's been doing. She moved classes right at the end of last term because of being bullied in the other class but says that the girls in her new class are nice. Nothing's changed at home recently. (The only thing we thought it could be was her mum not turning up to visit her over the summer again; but she says it's not that).
This morning I've been up to the School to talk to the teachers and they say that she doesn't look happy in lessons and last Friday they had an incident of tears during a lesson because the teacher corrected her work and she couldn't understand what she'd got wrong (which tallies with our experience at home where the slightest thing will set her off); but they haven't seen anything going on that would suggest why she's unhappy.
She complains constantly of tummy pains and feeling sick. I wanted to keep her home today because she said she thought she might be sick this morning, but she insisted on going in and said she'd 'be okay once she got there.' She's barely eating anything - maybe half the normal amount and she's not a big eater anyway - and says any sweet food makes her want to be sick, though she's normallygot a real sweet tooth. We're assuming that this is caused by the anxiety but maybe we're wrong.
Anybody have any ideas what could be wrong with her, or what we could do? It's getting us all down as it's just constant misery in the house. At least if she gave a reason we could do something about it but I honestly don't think she knows what it is that's upsetting her.
I'm starting to feel a bit of a failure as I just can't make it better for her!