My ds is 5.5 and just started school. He has always been close to his daddy, which is lovely of course, and my dh is wonderful and spends a lot of time with him at the weekend so that I get a bit of respite (sahm).
I also have dd who is two and when she sleeps (still naps) my dh will do something with ds and I get some peace.
However I am worried the dynamic will become a bit too much the boys and the girls. My dh does spend time with dd too, but he is just so good at the energetic stuff my ds needs. I am tired at the weekends and also not as good at the physical stuff.
When ds wasn't at school, I would play games or read to him when dd napped. So we got one on one time. That is the stuff I am better at. I taught him to read a little before he started school (which he enjoyed). However play parks, football, scooters I am not so good at.
I feel I am missing him a bit as now he is at school, I don't get as much one to one and then the weekends he wants his daddy. We are close too but it is just a different relationship. He trusts me and relies on me but I am not the 'fun' one really.
Is this okay? Should I make more effort to do physical stuff with him? I do suggest playing games etc but he usually refuses and goes outside with dh. My dh grows his own veg, and ds will spend ages in the garden.
I do quite often put him to bed and we will cuddle up and read. I am usually the one who helps with homework. I don't know just wondered how other mums spend time with their sons and daughters. What the dynamic is like