My 3 year old wont poo on potty/toilet

[colet]

My three year old son refuses to poo on the toilet or potty and insists on having a nappy on, he has been out of nappies of a day and night for 4-5 months and dry of a day for 8-9 months

I did get to the stage where my son was sitting on the potty with his nappy on but not actually pooing but that didnt last long, he just runs away and hides to have a poo

I have tried star charts (which he is not intrested), goody bags prizes you name it ive tried it, but he just refuses to poo on the potty/toilet and gets upset, sometimes he refuses to put a nappy on and has started to get constipated, I think Im making too big an issue but Im just worried as he is due to start nursery in January and Im also due to have a baby in June

I'd be grateful for any thoughts that could help me

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Colet

colet,I went through this recently with ds .

He ended up wearing a pull up to nursery and I had to go and change him when he did a poo.

In the end my dh took over the training because ds and I were too het up about it together.Once he'd done one in the potty and we whoooped with joy and he got some chocolate he's been fine.

He still refuses to sit on the big toilet seat without a childs seat on it.

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How did you get him to poo on the potty ? as my son doesn't even want to go near it when he wants a poo but when he has a wee we have no problems ?

Hello anyone got anymore suggestions to help me please

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Colet

It took my dd 15 months to poo in the toilet after she was out of nappies. She used to get hysterical and scream the place down if we even suggested using the toilet. My advice would be not to do anything at the moment - just let him become comfortable with the idea of using the potty/toilet for a poo in his own time. If you would feel happy letting him have a nappy for a poo (we did, and it didn't confuse dd - it actually made her more relaxed about things) then let him know that he can ask for a nappy for a poo if he wants one.

It helps to see training for wee and for poo as two separate processes - the fact that he is ready to wee in the potty doesn't automatically mean that he's ready to poo in the potty. If he isn't emotionally ready then there's no point in forcing it. It only leads to stress for you and for him - and the more stressful things get, the less likely he is to want to use the potty.

We tried bribery (the chocolate stayed in the jar until it went past its sell-by date), star-charts (she enjoyed making it, but it made not a blind bit of difference) and everything else you can name - nothing worked because she simply was not ready emotionally. In the end it was nicer for all of us to do things on her terms until she felt ready to try.

Try not to worry about nursery; if you make an issue out of it, it will become one. It may well be that seeing other children using the toilets at nursery will make it feel more acceptable to him, or it may be that (like my dd) he will simply hold on until he gets home.

Thanks its nice to no your not the only one

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