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What is parenting like for you?

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MIstletAOU · 06/12/2005 11:35

What was the first thing that popped into your head when you saw the thread title? Positive or negative - all views are valid.

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WickedWinterWitch · 07/12/2005 20:04

In answer to the thread title: up and down. More ups than downs I think.

PruniStuffing · 07/12/2005 20:08

Sorry suzywong i must remember to switch my wong-radar off.

Tipex LOL at 'custodial' - precisely the word!

Also Apteryx "My old life has gone and I never got the chance to say goodbye' is perfect. I really grieve some days. And not others.

jinglybits · 08/12/2005 01:04

self-illuminating. i have realised i have far greater strengths and weaknesses of character than i knew before. It can be so stressful! and i was always so chilled out! who'd have thought it would have been a small child that could shake me up so much! sometimes i feel like i just can't stand the demands on me and that i am losing myself and time even for my own thoughts but to imagine even for one second ds not being there is so unbelievably painful. It makes you face deeper parts of yourself, to push your physical boundaries of tiredness!, your patience, your fears. It is...everything i guess! amazing/overwhelming/funny/emotional/enraging/tender etc. It is true love. it is letting go of yourself and finding yourself at the same time. It is polar extremes of emotion. it is responsibility. it is caring. it is trying to shape a little bit of the future. it is selfless and it is also selfish...it is many contradictory things! it is exhilarating and it is exhausting. it is tough, it can break you and make you in the same day! It is constantly changing and evolving and whatever part of it may drive you crazy today you will look back on and a part of you will grieve the loss of in a future tomorrow. it is a challange and an adventure

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WalkinginaRainbowWonderland · 08/12/2005 01:18

Like the ups and downs and constant beep-beep-beeping of a life-support machine in the room that's wired up to you and the noise never goes away...

Annoying but reassuring, vital but repetitive, like a ticking clock I can't live without.

But.....take the children out of my life and where would be my purpose??

It would be just like flatlining......

giggler8 · 08/12/2005 08:01

overwhelming..in a positive way mostly ..I think it's finally the unconditional love I never thought existed..sometimes I could scream at dd ..but the next second it's changed again..it's very draining sometimes and uplifting the next...Am I making any sense here??

deckthehillswithboughsofmummy · 08/12/2005 08:29

Its the hardest, worst paid job I have ever done but is also the most enjoyable and rewarding.

On bad days I could walk out and never come back although I would be like a ship without a rudder if my children were to disapear. On the good days it is the best feeling in the world to have a smiley DD (nearly 4) and a happy DS (10weeks).

fullofturkeymoonfiend · 08/12/2005 09:16

I can't beleive i've been doing it for nearly 8 years! I love being a parent, an opportunity to create the family life I never had (sorry that sounds mawkish) but I was not prepared for the continuous emotional stress/guilt I feel under. It's the 3-0'clock in the morning thoughts which pop into my head sometimes, which range wildly from ''oh crap I haven't done anything for the school fair'' to ''what if the ds's turn into a drug addict/axe murderer/join the army when they are older'' etc etc etc. You name it, I've worried about it. In fact, I could hire myself out as Rent-a-worry.
''Waste endless time worrying about your kids? Worry no more, simply contact the professionals at Rent-a-Worry. We'll do the hard work for you. Our talented worriers will toss and turn the night away on your behalf...And if you can't think of any worries, FullMoon Fiend will think of one for you....sigh

blueshoes · 08/12/2005 09:26

Totally agree, jinglybits. Something you said reminded me ... it is my anchor to the present and my window to the future.

dublindee · 08/12/2005 09:30

Fun. Can be hard at times - but mostly fun watching your gorgeous baby grow into a little person!

IamBlossom · 08/12/2005 09:34

It's the ups and downs, the extremes - that you could pull your hair out sometimes and then feel serene and happy 5 minutes later (usually because they are asleep!) No-one can prepare you for the intensity of it, the 24hourness of it.

I smile to myself when friends get pregnant knowing what they have got to come, the times you sit on the floor with your toddler and stare across at your DH also sitting on the floor, it's Sunday, it's 9.30am, you've done breakfast, it's raining so you can't go out, too early for their nap, pre-baby you'd still be in bed or reading the papers with a bacon sandwich, but now, what do you DO with them at that age when they need constant supervision? I've never been on so many visits/walks/for cups of tea with random people, just to fill the hours!

Having said that, it is getting easier as DS gets older, and DH participates more in the entertainment activities (which is just as well with Number 2 on the way) and DS is EXACTLY like having your heart walking around outside of your body, I often say he is my "heart in dungarees". Now I get what absolute and true love really means, and I like has been said here before, would kill/die for him.

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emmamaw · 08/12/2005 10:30

I've got to say it's much easier than I expected - but before you all aim pistols at me, let me explain. I was half dreading motherhood. I had visions of walking up and down with a screaming baby all night, every night, for the next few years, and I had a horrendous start with breastfeeding. But my DD is an absolute angel. She slept twelve hours a night from 6 weeks (with just one night feed till 3 months, then right through). She has three hours of naps during the day, when I get a chance to relax (or clean the whole house!). She loves her food, and eats everything I give her, and best of all, I love getting up in the morning and spending my day with her. So much so, I gave up work. I know not everyone has such a wonderful experience, and I don't like to sound annoying, but I have been really lucky, and I'm so thankful for that.

santasweetdreamer · 08/12/2005 13:37

that's a lovely post emma!

so nice to hear of a great baby and you enjoying her!

ssdxxx

gemma97 · 08/12/2005 16:45

hey walkinginarainbowwonderland, I feel like that too. I can have the toughest day at work but now I see the point in it like I never did before. I enjoy life so much more now (I work part time which helps!)because I love my days off with dd but I look forward to going to work and having fun with my 'other kids' (I'm a secondary school teacher) while dd is having fun with my mum or my CM.
Also, I have always been sensitive to smells (the kitchen bin makes me gag) but can somehow deal with the smelliest nappy and cheerfully clear up a trayful of vomit without batting an eyelid.
PLUS my house is a bit of a tip....no one at their childs wedding/graduation ever says I wish I'd done more housework while they were little!

Harktheheraldcabewillsing · 09/12/2005 00:59

LOVE being a mum - especially as now I've started again after 14 year gap!

DD - 14, is a chip off the old block but smilier, happier and more forgiving than me! Makes me so proud.

DS - Just 11 weeks and I'm in love!

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