My MIL can be an absolute nightmare. over the years I have experienced endless hating, judgemental looks and comments. For example when my husband was very ill with arthritis and I was looking after him she told me "your shoulders aren't the broadest", when I was ill with postnatal depression she told me "your children didn't ask to be born" and berated my mother for her parenting saying it was her fault as a parent I was ill and "what has my son got himself into, marrying someone so unbalanced"... recently she told me "what you want is for him to come home and do your job as well as his own" ie do a bit of washing up or childcare... she comments on what I do with the children and what we buy, my weight, there are endless exchanged negative glances between her and her husband or my sister-in-law. Recently I stood up to her and told her if it didn't stop either there would be conflict as I would start responding or she would see less of the family. Her response? She has started being colder towards the children... nice woman (not). I know this kind of thing happens a lot to people of course but it is not nice having to deal with such a bitch!