How do I get him to tell me he needs to go?!

[anchovies]

Currently potty training ds (22 months) and he's doing really well at home. Have been going for a week now and very few accidents at home last week (2?) but he is still having lots of accidents at nursery. Problem is definitely that he doesn't say he needs to go, just goes and finds his potty and gets on with it.

The potty at nursery is in another room therefore he just has accident after accident cos he doesn't say he needs to go. He gets very upset and eventually after a couple of accidents they put his nappy back on.

Do I admit defeat and try again at a later date or continue doing the whole "don't forget to tell mummy you need a wee wee" thing. Hid the potty away a bit this weekend and although he has told me a couple of times the majority of times it has resulted in a very upset accident.

oh anchovies i'd be of the feeling leave it awhile, 22mths, oh i just think its so much for them to learn at that age, my dd was 33mths and it happened in 10 days, less even, no problems no accidents.

I'm a bit surprised at the nursery not being more helpful, in DS nursery they have a timer that rings every twenty minutes at that point all the ones in the process to learn to use the potty walk together to the toilets (they look so cute!), until they are used to tell when they need to go.

I'm frankly surprised they put him back on nappies, the staff from my nursery really warned me not to do it at the risk of ruining both home and nursery efforts.

Tell the nursery to take him every 1/2hr or so and make sure he goes (as much as possible). Important after just being outside a flashpoint experience tells me (something to do with being cold and change in temperature (always lots of accidents then). I'm sure the staff of the nursery prefer prevention to cleaning up (a much nicer job).

Mm, didn't realise he was so young, I think if he is really getting a bit distressed about it, it would be better to wait. We try it for the first time when DS was 30m and was a complete disaster, we left it for a couple of months and he was clean by the third day. It was less stressful for everyone, especially for DS. and the nice thing is that you don't need to take them to the toilet so often.

Sorry but for the staff of the nursery staff to take the word of a small child who is learning when and when not to use the potty is not good enough an excuse for accidents. He should be taken, nicely obviously, by saying things like well, lets just try shall we, or we are going in the garden don't want to have to come in from the garden do we. I'll wait with you and help you.

I've done the potty training things in plenty of nurseries and beleive me they all have accidents and need help and encouragement. Also they forget because they are playing and are doing what they are doing not thinking Oh do I need to go to the toilet. The staff should be helping him not sticking a nappy on confusing him poor lad.