Hi,
My 4 year old son has today hit me with the revelation that his step-mum, who he sees every weekend, is slagging me off to the him and his brothers faces and to the rest of her family/friends.
Can anybody please give me any tips on how to deal with this situation?
The childrens ages are 4 and 6. My relationship with his dad isnt great (but definitaly not abusive) and we make a point of NEVER slagging him or her off in front of the boys. The boys are very happy when they are at home with me and their step-dad and step-brother. Their dad agreed to the contact he has with them (3 or 4 days out of 14) and they also seem happy enough to go visit their dad.
I have always thought that they may 'groom' the children against me to some extent whilst they have them but they are very unreasonable people and only deny or throw our worries back in our faces. Because of this, i dont think speaking to my ex or his partner would help one bit.
Should i ignore it and let them ruin their relationship with the children or should i speak to the boys and explain why it is wrong for their step-mom to be doing this?
They are lovely kids and i am very cautious of making them feel under anymore pressure.
Thank you for any advice given.