Two very close together!!!? (Or three or four ...)

[CaptainDippy]

Hello!! I am a frazzled mum of two BEAUTIFUL little girls: Katherine, 21 months and Sophia, 6 months - So I have a just under fifteen months age gap between my little lovelies. (Was supposed to be sixteen months, but Sophia decided to make an early appearance!!) I love them to bits and pieces, but there are days when I wonder why my husband and I decided to get pregnant when my 1st DD was only SEVEN MONTHS old. Sophia is coming up for that age now and I think someone must have slipped mind-altering subtances into my drink or something!! Would LOVE to hear from other yummy mummies who have small age gaps for advice and general moaning / chat!! Need some support - Need to know I am not alone!!

I spent the whole of my last pregnancy terrified and dreading the close age gap and moaning about the thought of two babies crying at the same time. I think I worried about it so much that when the time came I couldn't believe how easy it was (compared to previous age gaps). They just slot in nicely and are absolutely adorable together and the older boys love them and very proudly tell EVERYONE that they have 2 babies (as if they are the only ones)!!! If it wasn't for the fact that DS4 is the 4th in 5 years then I would have def had another one with a close age gap to DS3 & DS4

There are 21 months between my two - which doesn't sound that small as a gap when compared to yours...however, I look at my youngest (19 months now) and think - when your sister was just 2 months older than you are now, I gave birth to you....and I grieve a little for depriving dd of her 'babyhood'.....but then dh tells me not to be so stupid and points out how close dd and ds are, and that we have enriched dd's life by providing her with a brother...

Still, I'm waiting a little longer for number 3

3 minutes between DD1 and DD2 and it was bloody hard work . The first year seems a sleepless foggy haze when I look back.

Three minutes is pretty good going by all accounts!! ;) Mmmmmm, I do miss my "exclusive" time with DD1 one now, but I love both my girlies so much and I am so thankful for both of them. DD2 is now coming up for the age at which DD1 was at when DD2 was concieved - and I have to agree with you HMC - NO WAY!! Not for at least another year yet - Would love four eventually - and couldn't care less if I end up with 4 girls (no boys in my family for 6 generations!!) Would be a shame not to use our boy's name though. Mmmmmm........

I'm 6 weeks away from having DD2 will have 17-18 month gap. Am starting to feel terrified some days thinking I am doing something wrong with DD1 as it's just me and her and we are so close and I won't be able to devote all my time to her. She's still my baby but will become my big baby soon. still I'm sure when DD2 is here I will feel different.

Oooh just found this thread !
I have 2.5 yrs difference between ds1 and dd, then 15 months between dd and ds2. I would love a 4th, but dh getting the snip to stop us before we do !!
It is a handful, but its already getting easier now I have got a bit of routine back again!
dd ( 20 months) adores ds2 (5months).
My only problem is that dd can't stand/walk as she has hypermobility syndrome, so Im having to still carry her about alot, and use a double buggy- which I hate with passion !!
I also regret not being able to spend one to one time with each of them, but I try and do group activities we can all do together like playdough and things. Im very pleased I had them close- Im getting all the nappies over as soon as I can !
Vickyx

DD still not walking which is quite tough but she's in nusery 3 days a week so I get a chance to re-charge the batteries on those days. V. supportive DH, but he works from 8am - 7pm so I'll be on my own most days with them both. Dreading the logistics of the bath, boob / bottle, bed routine!!

Here for you, sweetkitty - Don't worry, you will cope. You will love your little honeys soooo much it won't matter!!

Mummyvicky - you have a VERY smiliar age gap to me - DD1 is 21 months and DD2 is 6 months - Is mental, but they get on heaps better now, especially now DD2 is rolling round, grabbing stuff and nearly sitting. She stands her own ground now too - grabbing DD1's hair and giving it a yank - lol!! How are you finding it???

Glad you get a chance to recharge those batteries Pennies - DD1 is in nursery 2 afternoons a week and I don't know how I would cope if she wasn't. As a matter of fact, she's going there this PM - Hurrah!! [grin}

Have just found this thread!! There's 15 mths between ds1 and ds2. When ds2 came along, ds1 was still bum shuffling - I found it hardest to cope with him as ds2 was (and still is) adorable. DS1 was 9 weeks early so was very hard work from the outset - ds2 (now 9mths) was like a reward for all the hard stuff as I could relax and enjoy him. They are now just completely devoted to each other and ds2 will do anything for some attention from ds1. Am lucky that they both sleep for at least 2 hours in the day and generally from about 6pm to 7am. But do tend to pass around illnesses. If I ever feel like complaining I just talk to my Mum - she had 4 under 5!!!

Can I join this exclusive group! My dd is nearly 14 months and I am due end of Jan/beg of feb - when dd will be nearly 16 months. I assume it will be hard to start off but worth it when they are a little older.

Any words of wisdom will be gratefully received - though I think I will be initally very knackered in Feb!

Hotmama1 you are welcome anytime!! Welcome to our World!! You must be finding it tough being heavily preggers and having Little One -Hope you are getting enough rest!!?

Hotmama1 you are welcome anytime!! Welcome to our World!! You must be finding it tough being heavily preggers and having Little One -Hope you are getting enough rest!!?

Can I join in, too mine are 5 and 6 now ( just over 15 nonth gap). I did find the first year hard, as DD2 was not an easy baby. When DP came home from work and found only 2 out of 3 of us crying, that was a good day! I don't regret it as they are very close and I did have lots of fun. I am pg with no 3 now, so it didn't put me off, and if I was a bit yoounger/richer, I'd go for another one with a close gap again.

Hi, I'm new to MN and just found this thread. I have ds, 26m and dd, 11m, so have 15m age gap. Do I meet the criteria to join in? Its lovely now btw. They play together so nicely

Ooooooooh! More fifteen month age gaps - Fantastic!! We are mad mad mad!! Congratulations on No 3 Jasnem - When are you due?? Welcome to the club Tinytotmummy - How are you finding it at the moment? You are at the stage I'll be at in April next year!! Tell me it is getting easier all the time!!? Please!!?

So nice to know that there are so many others out there Does anyone ever worry that having 3 very close together would create a middle child situation/syndrome? We want a third but are holding off because of this - and that I'm not that mad yet!!

this one's due in Feb.

It gets easier all the time, really. When your friends are having their second and suffering the whole sleepless nights and baby thing, you'll have two little people who play together ( most of the time).

annobel - yes I thought exactly that. It was one of many reasons for having a 5 year gap between 2 and 3. But now I'm worried that no 3 will be more of an only child!

Maybe it's just another thing for me to hand wring about... Good luck for Feb!

I had 19 months between dds 1 and 2 then 3 years between dds 2 and 3 (because no.3 wasn't planned!). I do worry about middle child syndrome but hope that having sisters will be a good thing in the long run. With mine I've found that the elder two don't get along despite being closer in age while 2 and 3 play quite well together. Just shows-there's no ideal gap!

CD, I have to say, they have their moments - DD2 is going through the "let's empty every drawer and cupboard I can" stage and DS1 thinks its fun to help her! It gets easier all the time. Their routines are pretty much the same, apart from DD has an extra nap in the morning. They are sooo much fun!! They grow so quickly, but it just gets better and better.