Disliking childrens behaviour.

[PrettyMeerkat]

Does anyone else really, really dislike their childs behaviour sometimes? Not just the obvious things like hitting, but pulling sulky faces if you won't instantly stop playing with their sibling and instead play the game with them.

My daughter is so pushy, everything is about her and I so dislike it!

I can't stand the sulky faces
the winging
the whining
the demanding a present every time she comes out of school
the elbowing in on everything I do with her sibling (and elbowing sibling out)
the complaining about everything
the trying to control everything
comstantly demanding things and making out I am really mean if she doesn't get them

God when I read this I think she sounds so spoilt! I honestly haven't spoilt her! I have always tried to consider her feeling etc and tried to be balanced but if I give an inch she takes a mile.

Do you think her behaviour is manipulative (as Jo Frost was saying about some of it last night)? What do you do about that? A lot of the time I just want to tell her to FUCK OFF! But obviously can't do that

My dd, 6, sounds like yours

I did a parenting course, provided free by our council, it helped quite a bit. If anything similar is available to you, I recommend it.

Agree you have to have firm treats at regular times, so there is no random allocation - of course she'll whine if every now and then there's a treat but she has no idea when to expect it. Reward charts help hugely, as do some kind of punishment chart - my latest is to give dcs ten points at the end of the week and say if they still have any by end we'll have a family treat like go to a funfair. If they whine and moan for losing a point they lose another point. They're given one warning to stop the behaviour, if it happens again the point goes. It works pretty well and then I make a huge deal of how they've earned a family treat etc. Good luck, it can be very frustrating I know.

Well over the last couple of days me and my daughter managed to get some really good bonding time just the 2 of us. I also managed to get out on my own and meet up with some friends. I feel they both have really helped!

I think I will see my dr about some sort of couselling to help with my issues but I also need to get some time to myself more often, otherwise I just feel suffocated. It's figuring out how to do that which is tricky! I can't afford childcare of any sort and if I leave them at home with my DH I don't know what to do as everything costs money, even just going out for a coffee.

That's great news OP.

Just picked up on one thing that you mentioned about picking your DD up from school. My DD is vile if she doesn't have something to eat and drink at the school gate, I think it might be a low blood sugar thing (her friend is exactly the same). I take a biscuit/banana and a smoothie/bottle of water, when I go to pick her up, it makes the world of difference.

I read this thread with interest as dd (2) is a real whiner and I'm terrified it's going to persist. She chases me around the house screaming and whining for a hug when I'm trying to get dressed or make dinner. It makes me feel so irritated with her.

One thing I've been trying to do is to apply the advice a parenting expert gave me when I was concerned about ds getting angry. She told me that it wasn't my problem, it was his problem and he had to deal with it. I've been trying to think about whining in the same way - but it is hard - I guess that's why whining is so effective.

tryingtoleave Yeah I know it gets in your head doesn't it!