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Toddler Boys Long Hair - thoughts?

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MegandWesley · 30/06/2011 19:13

Hi there,

My 16 month old has curly blond hair and we have so far been happy to let it grow. However the longer it gets the more and more people think he is a girl - normally older people. To be honest I don't really care that much, but I suppose I am interested in what peoples opinions are on little boys with longer hair? I wonder if people think I am weird for not wanting to make him look like a typical boy (sometimes he does wear pink - which probably adds to the confusion for old ladies!)?

Its getting the stage now where it is soon going to be 'long' as in below the shoulders, I really don't think I could bring myself to cut it, and nor could my husband. However if he was a girl I would be thinking about putting it up now to keep it out the way; He is coming home from nursery most days needed a hair wash - which I don't really want to do every night! And also it needs drying before bed with a hair dryer or the pillow gets soaked. His fringe is also getting in his eyes, but we are unsure if we cut a definite 'fringe' if it would just look more girly?! We were thinking of just letting fringe grow and brushing it to the side. I have no idea about this kind of thing - none of his peers have hair as long yet and i wasn't a particularly 'kiddy' person before having him! Are there ways of having long hair styles that are more 'boyish'??

So the question is - what do you think of toddler boys with long hair? If your boy (or girl) has long hair what tips do you have for haircair? Especially 'bed head!'.

Thanks!

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allhailtheaubergine · 02/07/2011 06:24

Small children need practical hair. There is plenty of time when they are older to have fashion hair.

I have the same rule for my boy and my girl: Choose either short hair or long hair, but with long hair comes the condition that it is brushed and neatly tied up for school, and washed without fuss whenever I say so.

They both chose long hair.

EttiKetti · 02/07/2011 06:29

If I didn't want to be anon on here, I'd show you my son. He's always had long,.blonde curls and looks great. we do cut a fringe in as he's 6 now and its better for school/sport. He loves it. I did go thru a phase of getting pissed off with people thinking he was a girl, had it cut shorter, hated it and regrew it!!

exoticfruits · 02/07/2011 06:32

I would make the most of it while he is young and you can do it your way-your time is limited-he will have his own ideas soon.

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kreecherlivesupstairs · 02/07/2011 06:53

I don't like long hair on boys, certainly not down to their shoulders, but, as long as your DC are happy who am I to comment.

mathanxiety · 02/07/2011 07:15

I'd like to add that I had the longest hair in the class when I started school and hated being 'the girl with all that hair' after a few years. If you think your child's hair is part of his personality, please try to see him for himself -- how much of the hairstyle is for you and how much is for him. My own long hair became the bane of my existence.

saltyseadog · 02/07/2011 07:31

I'm really not a fan tbh. I don't like really short hair on boys either. I guess I like a happy medium.

Framey, your ds is gorgeous!

ensure · 02/07/2011 07:37

I don't like it myself. It always gets messy and I hate seeing hair in children's eyes.

Ishtar2410 · 02/07/2011 07:43

My DS is 2 and we've just had his hair tidied up. I have to explain that he was totally bald until around 8 months ago, so his hair is still quite wispy and fine. We had it trimmed so that it stopped looking like a 'mad professor' style!

The plan is, however, to keep it longer - to at least shoulder length, once it's got some body.

pinkypig · 02/07/2011 21:38

I have 2 boys aged 4 and 2 and personally I like it shortish. I think it looks nice and is so practical and easy to clean. I don't like super-short hair though it's too harsh. However, do whatever you're happy with. They will soon enough let you know what they want!

olibeansmummy · 02/07/2011 21:54

I like longer hair on boys bur not past the shoulders and definitely not in a ponytail. I like the surfy look and am trying to grow ds' (2) hair but it's still very thin although very curly. Framey's son's hair is perfect

LithaR · 02/07/2011 23:21

I love long hair on boys. I'm intending to leave my ds hair as it is until he's old enough to chose a style he likes. His body so his choice.

Jreng27 · 07/07/2011 21:39

Get it cut - he wont thank you later when he sees photos of himself! It seems self indulgent to keep his hair long just because you like it. Bit of a nits hazard too.

smartyparts · 07/07/2011 21:45

My ds2 has only just started having his hair cut short (ish, collar length). Up until he was 7/8 he always had longish hair.

I do miss his long hair! He looks too much like the other boys now - but he decided to lose the long locks.

EssexGurl · 08/07/2011 11:30

Sorry, but I would get it cut. There was a very embarrasing situation at a 5th birthday party DS went to. It was fancy dress so kids weren't in standard boy/girl wear. The entertainer asked all the kids to divide into boys on one side, girls on the other. This child with long curly blond hair went to the boys side. The entertainer was asking the child to move to the girls side. It turned out it was a boy. He was wearing a Buzz Lightyear outfit, but then so was my friends little girl. The Mum was a bit upset but really many of us there all thought he was a girl as well. Even when I found out his name, it didn't help as it was rather gender neutral. The boy himself was unphased by it, so I'm guessing it happens a lot.

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Ilythia · 08/07/2011 11:39

If it helps I have a 3 yo DD with long massively curly/frizzy hair. She likes to wear boys clothes (jeans/spiderman/batman tops) with her flowery pink trainers and people always think she is a boy with long hair, as opposed toa girl wearing 'boy' clothes. I wouldn't worry too much about people getting it wrong, they will do it anyway!

I actually had a row with a woman last week
'Oh hasn;t your son got lovely hair'
(resigned) 'thanks'
'you shoudl get it cut, people will think he is a girl'
'well, she is a girl so it's okay'
'Whats his name?'
'Her name is 'x' (very girlie name)'
'really? that's not a suitable name for a boy, what were you thinking?'
'Well, she's actually a girl, so....'
'Honestly, modern parents and their silly name choices, you are setting him up for bullying with his long hair and girls name you know'
'...'

Notanexcitingname · 08/07/2011 17:37

Ilythia that is hilarious! Both my ds's have had gorgeous curls and the end of their hair, ie they go if cut. With ds1 I bowed to social pressure and had it chopped, and regretted it. With ds it's been tidied into the surfer dude look and I love it. He can chose when he's older.

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