I shouted and I hate myself...

[olaybiscuitbarrel]

DD has been potty trained for a month, doing really well (incl dry at night since 3rd day) with just the odd accident every few days until this.
She has had an accident on Weds, then 2 on Thurs, and now just had 2 accidents today. I lost it at her when she had the first accident today and shouted. I know I shouldn't have done, and its not her fault, and I'm terrified that I've set her back now by making her stressed about it.
So stupid. I'm not normally a shouty parent, but something about this whole potty training thing really stresses me out.
Feeling deeply self loathing. In fact I'm crying now, why did I have to shout at her, poor little thing.
Someone tell me it'll be ok please!

Just replied to you, but on my thread. Sorry I am a first time poster so not sure of etiquette

Are you me??

My gorgeous DD is doing really well but did a poo today all over her pants and the toilet seat, having not quite made it in time (although she was in the right room!) and I went ballistic! Which I know is completely wrong. It is pretty stressful, this potty training business and I'm sure (having been through it with DS) that you have not done any long term damage! Tomorrow is another day. It will be fine.

I found potty training really stressful, and do remember getting really cross with my eldest when she had a huge accident immediately after spending ages trying on the potty. I felt awful too, but we carried on the next day and although 3 years on I can't remember the exact details she was def dry within a week or so in the day and within a month at night too, so she can't have been set back too much!

I also hate it when I shout for whatever reason - just wipe the slate clean and try extra hard to be patient tomorrow! (must remember to do the same with whatever stresses arrive myself!).

Potty training is IMO the worst part of parenting, but mind you have yet to experience the teenage years! don't worry, I'm a stress head and am awfully ashamed to say I shouted and got so mad at times :( with dc2, i thought he'd never get it and thought I'd be changing a 21 year olds nappy in the future but dispite this, it just clicked and got it! :) even with my shouting, so don't worry, it WILL be ok :)

Thanks. Feeling a bit better now - goodness it's hard sometimes!
Really don't know why but potty training is the hardest thing for me so far. I feel like a failure every time she has an accident!

It can be very frustrating when they regress, and it'll probably happen more than once. Don't be afraid to apologise, parents often forget to admit they were wrong. Tell her your sorry you shouted but she has to try and make the potty in time. I'm just about to potty train DD2 so it's all ahead of me : /

Oh, and there is lots of eveidence that shows that age and success of potty training is to do with biology/physiology and not intelligence or parenting!!

And every mu my loses it at some point, even the perfect mummy's, I always say so sorry, mum should not have spoke to you like that. I was wrong not you, so they know that's not how you act.

I found potty training a lot more stressful than my experience of the teen years so far (have 14yo). Don't know what made that so particularly difficult- I'm not a clean freak or anything- but it was.