I've been having a bit of a row with my mother (nothing unusual there!), and I would appreciate a MN perspective on it.
I collected DD (4.5) from school yesterday and her teacher wanted a little word with me. She explained that they had been practising their lines for the school play and when it came to DD's turn to stand up in class and say her bit (about 10 words), she went bright red and blotchy and burst into tears. The teacher comforted her and decided to give her a different line consisting of only 4 words and DD seems a lot happier with this. I told her it didn't matter if she forgot them or didn't want to do it, it was only a play, nothing to worry about etc etc.
"Dear" old mum overhears this conversation and buts in with "Of course you should do it, we all have to do things we don't want to do, you need to stand up, put your shoulders back and get on with it girl". She believes I'm giving DD the wrong message by allowing her to feel upset about these things and not making her "get on with it".
She's 4 FGS, she's been at school a few weeks, still hasn't made that many friends and obviously found it a bit of an ordeal and my mum's attitude has made me cross .