Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

Please or to access all these features

Parenting

For free parenting resources please check out the Early Years Alliance's Family Corner.

Friendship issues with 9 yr old son

2 replies

delph35 · 19/05/2011 22:07

Hi
Not sure if this is the right place to ask for help on friends, but thought I would try.
I am becoming increasingly upset about issues my son has with making and keeping friends.
It is not that he is shy, in fact the total opposite. He is over confident. But having watched him playing, he is too boisterous and silly. For example, if the kids are playing football, he will run over and swing on one of them, maybe kick the ball away and laugh in a silly way. The kids are now starting to exclude him, some in a "bitchy" way, ie talking behind his back and getting others to exclude him, others are more aggressive with him.
I feel so sorry for my son as he just doesn't seem to understand where he is going wrong.
We were at a after school club tonight, and he ended up having a fight with one child (who is quite aggressive) He says that all he did was kick the football, and other one set on him. I have explained that he was wrong to interupt game and also for fighting, but he says he was defending himself. Then during the rest of the session, another child spent the entire time saying "he did this, he did that" basically being really quite nasty about my son and getting the other kids to laugh at him.
Sorry this is so long, but I could really do with some advice to help both my son and me deal with it. Thanks

OP posts:
Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
pippop1 · 20/05/2011 13:37

I think you could try role play with him. You can be him and he can be the boy playing football. "Interupt" and ask him how it feels to him. Perhaps he will begin to understand. You will probably need to do this many, many times. You are getting him to put himself in another's shoes.

FluffyHamster · 20/05/2011 15:04

Useful book called 'The Unwritten Rules of Friendship' - I founf it had some good tips/ examples to help explain to kids where things go wrong and why....

New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Swipe left for the next trending thread