I have been a member on this site for a while and have a six month old of my own, I've found the advice invaluable and am now appealing to anyone out there who can offer help for my own mum. I realise this site is for parents of small children but you don't stop being a parent just because they've left home, the problem is my brother who is 31 years old. He is and has been for many years a very big worry, over the course of the last 3 years he has slowly dwindled into a virtual recluse, he had a health problem which caused him to lose alot of weight and he was off work for about 6 months, but once it was all sorted out he found it pschologically impossible to return to work, became panicy and had terrible anxiety attacks, after another 6 months of promising to return to work every week and failing to do so he was made redundant. He was given a very generous pay settlement which lasted him about 6 months and now, 11 months after losing his job, he is living alone, on benefits, has made no effort to look for a new job, is drinking and smoking too much, rarely goes out, has few friends and cannot pay his rent / bills and I believe he cannot even afford to buy food. My parents have helped him finacially in the past but since this has been going on such a long time and he is making no real effort to help himself they are reluctant to give him any more money because it stretches out the stagnant mess he has got himself into. He does nothing but play on his computer, he never calls anyone unless it is to ask for money. I live in Ireland and he lives in the west of England, if I was closer I would be in a better position to help, but all I can do is listen to my parent's desperation over the phone. I have had enough now and want to help in any way I can. I am appealing for any advice, websites, organisations that could give support to my parents as they are at their wits end with worry and are hoping to retire soon but can't with the potential finacial burden of their depressed son.