I feel like I am too strict with my 3.5 yo dd, but I don't know how to be more relaxed. I have two jobs and basically full time kids, so I'm a little stressed for time. I also have a 1 yo (who is just so EASY in comparison, it almost makes me feel guilty about the older dd). Today dd fussed when I said we'd go on a walk, then apologized (with a little smirk, she likes the drama), then came to get dressed but called me stupid mama. I sort of just lost it and yelled and send her in her room. She cried, then apologized- enjoying that- and then THAT made me mad and I told her to take her nap and go back in her room. She did, cried, but is asleep now, but I feel like I got way too angry; it's not helpful at the least. Not surprised she calls me stupid mama...what to do though??? It is so hard to get her dressed and out fo the door, and she has more than once spoiled everybodies fun. She's also done major drama whenever dinner comes around, but we have been successful ignoring her...but I can't do that when I have to get her somewhere...sorry for the rambling. I'd very much appreciate some seasoned tips...