How much to tell 6 yr old about birds and bees - new baby on the way!

[Clare123]

We have recently told our 6 yr old DD that we are having another baby. She is really excited, but also has asked lots of questions, including how did it get in there and how will it get out?

At the moment I have been able to distract her and have not really answered her questions, but I don't think thats right and I want to give her some answers to her questions, but I don't want to be too graphic or freak her out. Can anyone help? What did you say??

I started with the daddy giving mummy a seed etc but she wasnt having any of that and kept asking what the seed looked like and how it got in my tummy.

I avoided it for a while and then in the end said daddy puts his willy in mummys noo noo!! She thought this was hilarious but didnt say much more about it until I was cooing over a friends baby the other week and and said oh i'd love another one, to which she said well get daddy to put his willy in your noo noo and you'll get one!!!!

and before anyone says it I know I should say vagina but I cant quite bring myself to!

Well,I have heard it said that you tell them enough to keep them happy. So you could say that daddy gives mummy a seed and it grows into an egg. If she is happy with that fine,if she wants more info then give her more.
My DS1 (6) was really into how babies got out. I had told him that you just push and push and it comes out. But it wasn't enough. So I looked up some sites and found some none-screamy births,and showed him one. he looked at it,said "Oh yeah. It does just come out!" Wandered off and has never mentioned it since.I will try to ink it,it was on the One Born Every Minute website,a waterbirth.
Just be honest. It really isn't that big a deal. Not sure why we all get so nervous about these conversations TBH!

It is called Asouka gives birth.

Thanks for that link. DS (4) and DD (2) have now watched it 3 times. They wanted to see the lady and baby in the bath. I'm 36 weeks pregnant and want a homebirth, so demystifying birth is really important. Not sure I will be quite as composed as that lady though.

On being told he was to be a big brother my nephew had the usual questions but did ask the million dollar question "so mum does it hurt more going in or coming out"!!!!!!!

I said that daddy planted a seed in mummy's tummy. He did that by putting his willy in my fanny. The seed then grows into a baby. That you squeeze out of your fanny. She seems happy with that. She's 4.

I just tell them the whole lot. Graphic detail, whatever. If they know it from young then it's not an embarrassment or a shock to them.