All join on for the Asperger's thread...

[midnightservant]

...or that's what we'd have said in the playground when I was in infants school in the fifties.

Had a thorough read of the traits list I posted on the other thread, and it was quite mind-blowing.

Shall we start by gathering some data?

I am 58 and I'm an owl by nature (surprise!)
I am married with two young adult children, DS (22) and DD (19), who live at home.

Hello Hucking, I am seeing a lady called Maxine Aston in Coventry, it'll be a bit of a trek but worth it I think. She has writtrn several books about Aspergers and seems knowledgable about how it can affect relationships etc.

Dilly I totally understand what you mean about it effecting your marriage. I'm sorry yours didn't work out, he must care about you still though which is lovely.

My dh has to put up with a lot but I think we're getting there now I've recognised that maybe my behaviour can be a little 'trying'! Compromises have had to be worked out, especially socially.

my DH is an aspie too. It's not seamless but I do think it makes life a bit easier.

Hi all. Me - mid 40s, one teenage son, diagnosed on the autism spectrum by a very nice lady specialist in Surrey and by the Cambridge Autism Centre AAA scoring process. Private diagnosis, but well worth the money (about £400 at that point).
DH and I are both on the autism spectrum and been happily together for many many years. We certainly have had to learn to communicate really clearly using words, and respect each others' needs for routine/special interests etc.

I am 27, not diagnosed but convinced I have Asperger's. One daughter (3.5 months) and separated from my husband (I believe a lot of our issues were related to my Asperger's).

I read a study about giving people with ASD oxytocin, as it improved their condition. As I am breastfeeding, I get regular doses. I have noticed a difference, as I seem to be more willing/able to interact with people. Has anybody else experienced this?

There's fairly good research on Oxytocin and how it can affect people's social experiences. Trouble is, it can also affect people negatively...if they get a dose of Oxytocin after a scary encounter with a person, they're more likely to be even more scared than usual, so it just seems to make reactions bigger rather than be an answer. I also worry about a chemical that makes us more likely to trust others without proper evidence for that trust. Alas - not everyone is a nice person, and I know that my judgement on people is fairly dodgy at the best of times.

Hi have skim read but would like to join in. Dh has asperger's. He is a fantastic man tbh. Although our marriage is not perfect- but then who's is?

He has achieved so much despite his asperger's and he is a kind and talented man. If im honest sometimes i see it as a blessing, especially as we work as a team. I give him insight into other people and social cues etc etc and he works amazingly hard as well as much more.

arsenic, same with my dh. We compensate for each others' particular difficulties and work together as a team as well. He's a really lovely man.

If it wasn't for my dh I'm sure I'd be living in a hole! He encourages me to meet people and is there for me when things go a bit wrong. He's also very good at explaining situations and reactions so that I don't get the wrong end of the stick and humiliate myself - this has been done A LOT

I've felt like I've had to move on from whole social groups before now. I do tend to blow things out of all proportion though

Hello, I've never been good at social situations have no real friends. Do you think I may have aspergers or something similar or do you think I might just be a bit shy? I'll understand if you can't tell me from just that.

Canistaysane - this was my concern. I'm crap at technology and am on the iPad so don't know how to link to it, but if you look down the board you'll see the thread I started 'I think I might have aspergers'. There are links on there that might help you to decide - I found them very helpful and quite enlightening. I've decided not to go for a dx but if you decide it would help you there is information there for that too.

Hopefully someone cleverer than me will be along to help you better! When I'm next on the PC I'll see if I can sort it out, it would be better for the info to be transferred over to here anyway.

Feel free to post here anyway, it's good to be able to share how you feel with people who understand

Canistaysane, have you tried any of the online tests, to see what sort of score you get? They're a fairly good indicator?

I found the otherthread and have this for you Canistaysane:

"Have a look for AQ test and also for EQ SQ Tests and you should find the right ones. They are nt diagnoses, but they can help people decide whether it's worth asking for one or not. With the AQ test, a score above 32 is a good indicator. With the EQ tests, a low score is also a good indicator, as is a high score on the SQ tests" amberlight

Midnightservant also linked us to this:

www.help4aspergers.com/pb/wp_a58d4f6a/wp_a58d4f6a.html

hope I've done that right

HTH

"My GP won't refer me as she says Asperger people are organised and I am not."

There is a difference between tidy and organised. My desk is not tidy, but it is organised; I can tell where things will be by digging down through the strata of paper, CDs cables, receipts etc etc.

I got my diagnosis a couple of months back...