How to handle competitive friends.

[Piggyleroux]

Someone tell me how please

A friend I made last year from nct class. We get on really well but I can't stand the comments such as 'oh, your ds can say bird, but my dd is walking'.

Its every time we get together. It's driving me nuts and I know it's only going to get worse when they start pre school etc and there's more for her to compare.

I don't want to end the friendship, but I find myself making excuses not to meet up....

What do I do?

Say 'why on earth does it matter.'

Repeat as necessary.

Is it her first child and yours? I found I was mildly put out by competitive mums with ds 1. With ds 2 I smile vaguely and let it wash over me.

Explain to her that they all learn to talk and walk and its not a competition, keep repeating and she'll soon get it!

Can you just acknowledge what she says, ie nod and smile, and quickly move on to something else?

It may be that your kids are the only things you have in common?

Just smile, say "that's nice", and move the conversation on-preferably to something NOT to do with the kids

just respond with "isn't funny, the differences?? We're all good at different things. Maybe your dd will be athletic and my ds will be academic!"

I would probably just ignore. Though I would then replay the scene in my head but in that version i would have a whitty retort at the ready. "that will look great on her cv..." etc

ha ha MoonFace - 'that will look great on her cv...' Hilarious! Must remember that one.

when chazzing, make a comment about another real/fictional person, pointing out that you really dislike their uber competitive parenting... unless she's an imbecile, she'll get the hint.