not coping very well today

[Donbean]

Feel so anxious and short fused and wound up by every thing.
Shouted and screamed at ds, cant cope with him

thanks ks, yes he started play school in sept and enjoys it.

counselling - she gives me "strategies" rather than pills, and so far they work for me. Got her through my GP which took me about three years to get round to.

Everyone does have these moments so please don't be so hard on yourself. Lack of sleep is a killer and will obviously make you more tense and short fused.

I had a bad night with one of my DDs last night and lost it this morning, over something very trivial. She wanted bunches for school then changed her mind and wanted plaits and I went berserk . So please don't think you are alone.

Donbean - if you think its a hormonal thing, keep a diary of when the bad days are. See if it is cyclical (sp!). If it is, your gp might be able to help. And at least you'll know when its coming.

I spent yesterday bursting into tears at the slightest thing (dd asked me to put her hair in bunches and I sat down on the floor and wailed "I can't [sob] dooooo [sob] bbbbunches!"). Last night my period started. Feel better today.

With your ds, the important thing is to apologise. Its good for him to understand that everyone gets it wrong, and when you do, you say sorry and forgive and carry on. I grew up thinking adults were perfect, and if they shouted it must be my fault. It didn't do much for my self-esteem as a child, and it was a shock when I discovered that I was an imperfect adult!

Can you cuddle ds in front of Cbeebies and eat lots of chocolate together? .

Fruitful - it must be a girl/hair thing

Think so!

My strategy for coping is "get out of the house". Or invite a friend round. The kids play, the mums drink tea and swap horror stories. If my friends are all busy, we go to the park. If its raining, we go to Tescos and fantasy-shop round the toy section.

I have some other strategies... Before I had ds as well, I used to park dd in the bath, and sit on closed loo-seat and read a book. Or sometimes I'd get in too. Or we throw all the sofa cushions on the living room floor and jump up and down on them. Actually, sticking a cd on and dancing is good for chasing the clouds away, and is something you can do with a toddler.

yes we will do that thanks!
Friend has just popped round for a natter so im going to have coffee and choc and blub to her xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Thanks for all of your concern over a miserable old bag xxx

Donbean having same sort of day my ds is being really horrible (21 months) to me and dd is feeding every two hours. I screamed at him the other day, really lost control and it frightens you more than them I think - so I know the feeling. You do deserve him but they can really test you to the limit sometimes. Sometimes I feel on top of the world managing the two of them but other days like today feel like I can't cope at all. Sorry haven't seen your other posts but I'll tell you what I miss, being able to ring my friend and get her to come over. She now also has two kids and lives on the other side of London so it isn't an option anymore. She used to be my lifesaver, still is but only over the phone sadly......

i am going to start a diary and chart the days and go to my GP (who is very good) as i definitely think its cyclical.
In a day or two when i read this back i will feel very very foolish.
Also LOVE the idea of dancing to a cd, am defo going to give that a go with ds.
Thanks again all for bieng there for me, i really do appreciate you all. x

sorry forgot the big kiss sign x

donbean-I have followed some of your threads about your ds-only because my 4 year old was just the same and is still high maintenance now!

I have been in the red mist state with him-it is frighteneing and makes me feel so worthless as a parent.

I have a great book that I read with ds-you will have heard of it "when mummy turned into a monster"

funny way of looking at why parents get mad

hope you're feeling better xx

Thanks chipkid, im going to try to find that book because funnily enough, when i know the reason "why", i can understand and cope better.
I have read Christopher Greens toddler taming and found that fascinating. I tend to slope off for an hour to have a sneeky read when dh is home.
Still fed up today but not as tearful as yesterday. I made sure i cuddled ds and said what a grump i had been all day. I felt a bit better after that.