Whats the best discipline for a 5 year old?

[Helenemjay]

I have an incredibly persistant and naughty one!

A good thrashing!

Only joking but will be very interested in replies as my 4 yr old can be a complete monster!

I feel like my ds is constantly getting the better of me and im really ashamed to admit i have smackedhis bottom today and i have sent him to his room - he is now up their jumping as hard as he can on his floor! gggrrrrrr

I would like to know as I was a shouty mum to my just turned 6 year old this morning and it makes me feel awful.

In fact I KNOW what works and its my fault when it slips.

If Im really good at praising good, being positive with her, spending time with her and doing a star chart with her properly she is an angel.

He is really doing my head in! I have tried a star chart with him but truly doesnt seem to care for it much! he went to his room for throwing his toys - i let him down and after 10 minutes went and started it again!

Naughty step
no dessert
no TV
no treat

Don't make threats you won't carry out. If all else fails, tie him to the radiator!

Lol SHR!! im getting ready to hang him by his toes to the washing line!

My 5 year old is always lying and it drives me insane!!!

If I am not in the room and something happens she blames her brother and I know it is her but will swear blind her brother did it. Now he has wised up to her plan and tells me that she has done it. If he has done it though he will admit it!!!

Difference between boys and girls I suppose, mentioned on another thread!!!

my ds, 5, does my head in. He is naughty at home and very stubborn (good as gold at school though). I shall watch this thread in hope.

my dd is 5 nad her general punishments are either no Simpsons - which she loves watching at teatime or early to bed. This worked best in the summer as she hated going to bed when it was still light. It's not so good now the nights are dark as she doesn't really notice the difference.

Ds lies alot too! oh it makes me mad but he too has a little brother who is 2.5 and he copies whatever ds1 does and so if ds1 kicks off so does ds2!! also have a 7 week old dd, and so i think they take advantage of the fact that im quite busy with her alot - instead of the usual 1 weeks half term my ds gets 2!! - arent i the lucky one! so we have had just about 2 weeks of sheer chaos in this house and he has just about taken me to my limits - ds2 is naughty but he is much more controllable - i thought the 2 year olds were supposed to be the worst??

we tried using the naughty step and setting the oven timer to 5 mins.

Trouble is dd then insisted that me and dh sat on it when we'd been naughty or argued and she would then set the oven timer too - trouble is she used to hold the button for too long and set it for about 15 mins!!!!!

She got really cross if we didn't oblige too!

My ds is WORSE at school!!!

Question to everyone: Whats a 5 year old like? ive never had a 5 year old before - am i maybe expecting to much? - Define your average 5 year old, if possible??? is it normal for them to be 5 going on 15!?

Absolutely! they are really staring to push the boundaries, they have also realised that they don't have to tell the truth all the time (especially when there is a sibling/cat/dog/hamster to blame!)

Having said that my dd (5.6) is a reasonable sort most of the time! Sometimes I have to walk away though as she is completely infuriating!

Really Lucycat? im quite glad to hear that! ds1 is pushing me to my limits - he doesnt scream and shout though - he just quietly and calmly causes hell!

Ignoring bad behaviour
Withdrawal of affection until the behaviour is better (but lots of affection once it is)
Being consistent - ie. not changing your mind once you have said "no" to something (even if, in retrospect, you feel you were a bit hasty or harsh in saying no)

If Dd was ever naughty I would just walk out of the room and refuse to interact with her. Important though, to give lots of love and cuddles once they have apologised.

I have to admit that i dont give ds1 that much affection - and yes i am VERY ashamed to admit this! i think its some kind of battle of wills we have got into, both ds and i are very stubborn people and we have got into a viscous circle of me shouting an dhim refusing because i shout and me shouting because he refuses etc etc.. he really winds me up and the days of me and him having a cuddle dont exist anymore im ashamed to say even the moment he enters the room i can feel my back getting up!! god what sort of mother am i - i know its me that needs to break that habit but i really dont know how!

I do sometimes have to take a deep breath and tell myself that I am the adult and then try to picture them as the most adorable little 2 year old. I always try to do bedtime stories and we have 10 kisses telling her how beautiful/clever/kind she is and that she was my first baby and made me a mummy.....end the day on a cuddle if you can.