Terror of meetng new children

[Jazzyjinks]

My DD is nearly 11 and we have moved to a new area Tunbridge Wells. She is still at her old school for the last fw months (school run nightmare!) She has become terrified of making new friends, so much so that she had a snowboard group lesson today and she fell to pieces and wouldn't even get out of the car. Same the day before and would rather sit indoors this Easter than do anything that might involve other children. She has 3 big brothers and she is very popular and extrovert at her current school and very sporty etc etc. I cannot believe this is my child - I had no idea she had this side to her and am panicking about her starting TWGGS in September especially as most of the girls will know someone due to small catchment area. Have any other mums had this much of a problem and how can I overcome it? I can't exactly carry her kicking and screaming into school.........

What you need to do is get her into meeting new people asap otherwise it will spiral. Get her older brothers involved - let her do things with them and encourage them to talk to people her age with her. Or get one of her friends over for the day and take them to places where they are likely to meet local children - having one of her friends there may help her to get used to being around others - she doesn't have to talk to them, just being around them will help at first.
Research youth groups and maybe brownies or something like that. As soon as she makes one friend it will all change - Being 11 with a large group of friends it is hard going from that to no friends but as soon as she has that one friend who will introduce her to others, you just have to keep encouraging in an unobvious way.
Hope this helps!

I would deal with this quickly with a few visits to a Child Psychologist, who will be able to get to the crux of the matter a lot more quickly than you can and can avoid the problem escalating; as you say, you don't want your DD to get off to a bad start at secondary school.