is it me or is this wrong???

[MrsC1977]

Hi, I recently visited a friend who has recently had a baby. Now my friend has never been the tidyest of people but I was so shocked when I visited. Her house stunk of dogs (she has 2) and there was doghair everywere. I fed her 12 week old son with a bottle that was dirty and had doghair on. The baby had doghair all on his face, she changed the babys pooey nappy n walked off to come back to her son waving a pooey baby wipe around until she noticed and took it off him! I am thinking all this isn't right and what surprises me is that she and her partner are nurses! Is this just me being picky or what?????

No you're not being picky. Housework definitely isn't top priority when you have a new baby, but keeping the baby, and particularly bottles clean is essential!

So how do you propose to help her?

It is too unclean.

You do need to help her.

Say something like, "I'll make you a cuppa and make sure you've got enough clean bottles to keep you going, so yo ucan rest. You need to rest, you must be exhausted. Is there anything else you want me to help you with while I'm here so you don't have to wrry about it?"

Sounds like she needs help but you need to be careful not to make her think you're judging her.

How is she coping emotionally?

Hi, I'm not sure how she is coping to be honest. But I do know her and her partner argue a lot even before she got pregnant. I'm not judging her on her house being a mess . I was just shocked with the baby etc. Her partner actually told her she was SELFISH for bf! I mean come on that is a bit harsh really

that is harsh.
who is he to judge??

you have to help her.

Sounds like she really needs help :(