am i being unreasonable ???

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my dd has been friends with 3 other girls since about year 1 or 2 in this little group of pals now in year 7 ,2 of the girls have since starting seniors become a bit too hard faced for my liking , however just trying to guide dd the right way , one of the hard faced girls has recently had a birthday party and excluded dd from the event , dd took this ok until today when she completly broke down sobbing asking why have they done this to me ??? i sent a gift to the birthday girl as to show no hard feelings , and havent even had a thank you text or email from the girls mother who was at one point texting me quite regular to do her the odd favour , this has really chessed me off !!!! am i reading too much into this situation ?? thanks for reading

I would stay out of it and encourage her to make other friends.

thanks for your reply , yeah think thats the best way to go x

when I was 11 and started at secondary school I was part of a little group of 4 girls who had all come on their own from primaries. We were "best friends"in various combinations over the years 7-9 and at various times one of us would be ostracised by the others for a few days for some non-reason that I can't even remember. It is awful when you are going through it but somehow that didn't stop any of us doing it to the others when it was their turn - probably glad it wasn't our turn. We grew out of it and having been a secondary teacher for 14 years now have seen this repeated many times. Provided it isn't a prolonged campaign against your daughter try and stay out of it and encourage her to have friends outside this group that she can pal around with in the meantime. Getting involved or getting the staff involved as a "bullying" issue is probably not appropriate at this point - but if it DOES continue or repeat itself do contact the form tutor - they will almost certainly be aware of it anyway.

It is a big change to secondary. My DS went with a nice little group and then they had a falling out. He was very upset, but he made other friends and was much better off.

thanks so much for youre great replies , very much appreciated , really good advice xx