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Dd has lost her favourite comforter toy and I'M upset.

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cupofteaplease · 11/04/2011 19:12

Dd2 is 3.10. When she was born, dd1 gave her a bear comforter that she had been given as a baby. Dd2 loved it and as she grew up she carried it everywhere. She held it whilst she sucked her thumb, and rubbed it against her face etc to the point that it was falling apart so I patched it up and repaired it as and when. We had another version of it, but she wouldn't be fooled with it.

As she got older she gave it a name, and when she went to pre school she would take it and hang it on her peg. It became a standing joke as she showed it in Show and Tell every week, saying it was her best friend.

At night I would tuck them both up in bed, and she would whisper to him and tell him how much she loved him.

Yesterday, we went to a large supermarket, and when we came out, we realised the toy hadn't made it out with us. Dh went back in to look, but couldn't find it. I went back, but they wouldn't let me in as they were closing. I left my mobile number in case they found it. Dd went to bed fine without him and told me that it was ok because 'he's just doing a big shop to get me some pink milk and biscuits- he'll be back soon' Sad

Dh went back after work today and hunted on his hands and knees, but couldn't find it.

I am so sad about it. I know I am over reacting, I blame my pregnancy hormones. But I still have my childhood toys, my dh has his favourite from when he was a baby, and my Dad had his boyhood teddy that sat on his bed. He has died now, and I still get comfort from giving his teddy a cuddle. I genuinely feel like we have a lost a part of dd2's childhood in losing this bear Blush I know how ridiculous that sounds.

I don't know what I hoped to achieve by writing this down, I can't believe I am being upset by a bloody ratty old piece of fabric!

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deedee321 · 13/04/2011 18:25

Any luck today in your search???

SingingSands · 13/04/2011 18:37

I've been there too, DS lost his "lamby" at Cheshire Oaks in November last year, we both cried all the way home to Leeds. The next day we went to TKMaxx and he picked a toy donkey which has become the new comforter, probably because it is roughly the same size and shape as the old one and is also grey, with ears for twiddling and sticking up his nose. I still feel sad about "lamby" though, if anyone found him he was obviously a comforter and nobody else would want the grotty thing, but a week of calls to customer services proved fruitless.

But the GUILT! How did I let it happen? I am a terrible mother! (I've never gotten over the loss of my own "fluffy"!).

queenbathsheba · 13/04/2011 18:41

Just checking back in to see if you had any luck today. Fingers crossed.

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queenbathsheba · 13/04/2011 18:43

I had a grey seal when I was very young, he just fell to pieces in the end and couldn't really be repaired. I'm mearly 40 and still remember him.

queenbathsheba · 13/04/2011 18:44

nearly

cupofteaplease · 13/04/2011 19:07

Thanks for remembering deedee and queenbathsheba, I didn't manage to make it to the supermarket today, but hope to go tomorrow.

I can't believe dd2 has just replaced it so easily- she is now onto the 4th 'favourite' toy since the loss of Mr Bear Shock. We told her today that she is going to be a big sister, and all of sudden she seems so very grown up, not my baby at all !

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deedee321 · 13/04/2011 22:06

Aaww congratulations! I've just gone through that myself, my 3 year old suddenly seems so big, when she had always seemed so wee... But being a big sister will be the best fun in the world for her!

Amazing that she genuinely doesn't mind her lost bear. Whew!!!

Katy1368 · 13/04/2011 23:36

Oh god I feel your pain - It's so true that it is more than a bunch of scraggy material but something with so many memories attached. DD has a cow which is virtually my best friend now too and she also has a special macca pacca. Once when we were in a childrens play centre I realsied she had dropped Macca and was honestly nearly as distraught (okay I was pre-menstraul and hormonal too in my defence!) I honestly felt like crying - poor little macca pacca! All alone and friendless! Obviously trying to locate one small toy in a play centre was like looking for a needle in a haystack but miracles! As we were about to leave there he was by the craft table, so ever since I have been sooo careful... Hope you find him!

nappyaddict · 14/04/2011 20:46

If she's not bothered about it then I wouldn't worry too much about it. Take a photo to the supermarket, ask they show all staff, stackers, cleaners etc and leave your number. Ring next week to see if it's turned up if no one gets in touch. If not then at least DD is not upset over it.

EustaciaVye · 14/04/2011 21:48

Aw, how sad. Hopefully it will turn up but if not you will probably find she goes through lots of teddies in the coming months until she finds a new special friend.

peanut25 · 04/12/2014 19:31

My little boy has just lost his favourite Nellie toy I keep crying over the memories it holds :( I l know this is an old post just glad I'm not the only one who finds stuff like this sad xx

Bedsheets4knickers · 07/12/2014 18:51

If my kids lot their blankets I'd be gutted. X

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lolalotta · 09/12/2014 05:09

Did you ask in the lost and found?

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