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So sad. My son has had a bad day.

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QuintessentialShadows · 10/04/2011 21:21

  1. My 8 year old son went to play with his friend. He came home shaking with anger, red hot furious face, he was crying, and when his dad asked him what was wrong, he shouted "shut up" and slammed the door to his room. I went down there. He said he hated his life, he hated his friend, he hated this street, this country, and wanted to effing move back to London.

We asked what happened, and it turned out that his friend wanted to play wrestling with him. This is fine to a point, only that my son is very lithe, and this boy is 1 1/2 years older, is taller and stronger. So he kept lifting my son up, and throw him on the floor, like you do when you wrestle. Apparently my son told him to stop and he didnt, and my son got so mad he ran down the stairs crying, kicked their door, and tore out some bedding plants on his way out from their property.

Cue, friends mum on the phone saying she did not care WHAT led up to this outburst, but it was not acceptable behaviour, to kick door, shout at them, and tear up plants.

Sad I can do without this.

My son is normally quite placid and kind, but he does have a temper, and hate being treated unfairly. His friend can be quite nasty at times.

I made him go to apologise to the boys parents for his behaviour. I think this, and banning him from playing Wii for a week, will do. Dh thinks he needs a more severe consequence.

I honestly dont know. I know from experience that this boy is very manipulative, and they are not always a good mix. He is very good at behaving nastily, and then cry with big angelic eyes once he sees that an adult is present. I suspect he did this with his mum, putting all the blame on my son.

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QuintessentialShadows · 10/04/2011 21:23
  1. It is his birthday party on friday. His best friend cant come. He has already rsvpd yes to a different, and sadly much cooler party. My son is upset because his friend wont be there, and possibly others are going to the other boys party, and in addition, my son is not invited to the other party. So pants all round.
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PonceyMcPonce · 10/04/2011 21:24

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southeastastra · 10/04/2011 21:24

try to let him sort it out himself. i try not to get involved in their quabbles, i'd drive myself mad

kids arguing is usually sorted out black and white rather than worrying and analysing it like adults would

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QuintessentialShadows · 10/04/2011 21:32

Should I try and change his date for the birthday party?

He already only wanted 6 kids from his class, so not a lot, and with his best friend not there..... grr...

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QuintessentialShadows · 10/04/2011 21:33

Just had a text from boys mum, thanking me that son came to apologize, said she had a word with her son now too, and that hopefully this would soon be forgotten and life return to normal.

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baskingseals · 10/04/2011 21:39

if it's not too late I'd change the date of the birthday party.
might help cheer him up a bit.

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Ragwort · 10/04/2011 21:41

That's nice that the other mum sent you a text - I have a 10 year old DS and know how quickly these situations happen, then the boys can be all smiles the next day. Hope the party situation gets resolved Grin.

QuintessentialShadows · 11/04/2011 12:26

Managed to change the party date, and the key friends who had already been invited will be able to make it. Piuh!

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TheMonster · 11/04/2011 12:29

Well done QS. You've sorted it!

CinnabarRed · 11/04/2011 12:34

You're a lovely Mum!

QuintessentialShadows · 11/04/2011 12:36
Smile

now out to pick up ds2s new "grown up" bed. he will be so pleased.

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