Reluctant fathers after divorce

[Mrytle]

Can anyone tell me how I go about getting advice regarding a father who is not pulling his weight following divorce? All I can find is advice for fathers desperate to see their children, nothing about how you " encourage " a father who dosent do his bit.

Try the lone parents sections you might get some tips!

I'm a lone parent with no advice as my ex has the kids 2 Sats a month for 6 hrs despite repeated attempts to build proper contact - I don't class 6 hrs playing in a museum proper parenting! Good luck

what does he do at present?

Supposed to be every other weekend, but often has " others things on " and cancels. he has to see our daughter at his fathers home as she (11) refuses to go to his new house. Contact usually involves going to the cinema. I agree with Monkey and Parrot not what I would call real parenting. I am new to this is their no way of formalising contact time?

I am in a similar position where i would love my DD to be able to see more of her dad, but he is unwiling to relinquish his free time to spend with her. unfortunately there is little that can be done if he isnt willing. Ive tried mediation and solicitors both with no luck.

As far as the law goes, contact orders are brought/requested in the main by non resident parents/parents without care who want to have contact with their children formalised. interestingly though, if a parent with care/resident parent fails to make the child available as per the contact order they can be held in contempt of court. If the parent without care/non resident parent simply doesnt turn up/stick to the contact order the courts can't do anything to penalise them other than amend the contact order for a reduced amount of time.
It seems crazy to me - particularly in my circs where Im the one who is making DD available for lots of contact that isnt being taken up - that there is nothing that can be done.

My ex has reduced the time he sees our DD to once a month, when he takes her to his mothers for the weekend. Then instead of taking her out of having quality time together he lets her sleep in til lunch time. This is especially irritating on Sunday when he lets her sleep in til lunch, feeds her brunch then brings her back.

My DD is so fed up going with him because she so bored!!

I'm sure he does this on purpose so that she will be the one who decides to break contact, instead of him owning up that he doesn't want to see her.

It breaks my heart how little he wants to see the DC's

Do you have a good relationship with your ExH's parents? Could they influence him at all to increase time and quality of the visits?

Ultimately I'm not sure as I'd want to push my DC onto anyone who doesn't want their company, whether it's their Father or not, surely the DC will pick up on that feeling of not actually being wanted?