Why won't she poo in toilet???? HELP

[Shazzler]

My dd will not poo in the toilet or potty. Have tried everything I can think of and now am open to suggestions.

I know roughly when she goes and take her regularly to the toilet round that time but even after having been she will poo her pants minutes later.

She tells me where poos are to go but will still not poo in the toilet. Bribery isn't working either.

I am finding it hard to keep calm and would welcome some help.

Took DD about 3 months from being dry to actually pooing in the potty. Like your DD she knew where they were supposed to go and knew she would get a chocolate button if it did go in the right place but kept doing it in her pants. Then it just seemed to happen and we have only had 2 accidents since.
Not much help probably but I think you just have to hold your nerve and it will happen when she's ready.

Thanks for reply.

DD has been dry for about 6 months and used to do at least some poos on the toilet but has really regressed and even goes off in a corner or another room to do them now.

It is very difficult to keep calm when I have just taken her to the toilet and kept her sitting there for a time and then she poos in her pants.

my dd won't either. She goes upstairs and puts on a pull up nappy and poos in that.

No ideas sorry

If she went and put on a nappy at least it would be easier!!!!

Not sure if she would manage that

How old is she? I had similar problem with DS whe he was about 2.5 and did not crack it properly until he was 5. I kid you not.

Looking back I think the reason we had such longlasting problems was because of how we handled the toilet training in the first place. I think we got too overanxious. We knew he could use toilet for wee and thought we shouldn't put him back in nappies just cos he was slow on the poo front. Eventually we cracked it by giving him a star everytime he did a poo in the toilet.

He has now taken to leaking urine in his pants as he won't use toilet. Again our response has been a little tense. Well you can imagine he is almost 6 and has no other developmental problems. This time we are trying to ignore it and using another reward system.

I think the whole toilet thing is deeply physcological and if handled badly could lead to years of problems. I wish we had just put him back in nappies and waited a few more months.

Thought my experience may be useful in some way.

2 years and 2 months.
DS was brilliant when it came to the toilet. Hardly a mi-hap - usually only when distracted.

DD is a total chancer.
Where do you do poos?
In the toliet.
Do you do poos in your pants
No. Toilet mummy

Then she turds her breeks. Grrrrr

And she apologises straightaway so I can't go mad at her. Too flipping cute. Got her dads looks ;)

same thing happened with ds2 over the summer and I tried everything. Just a suggestion if she is dry could you put her in a pull up and get her to still wee in the potty/toilet and when she poos just throw the pullup away. Might help with the stress thing I know how horrible pooey pants are.

I think one thing that got ds to go on the toilet was I pretended to flush his new Thomas underpants away when he pooed in them, it sounds cruel but I knew he could do it and bribery wasn't working. He was really upset and didn;t want all of his new underpants going down the toilet and went on his potty soon after and then on the toilet. The other thing was I finally found a bribe that worked after trying cars, marbles, sweets, stickers I offered to take him for a doughnut at the newly opened doughnut shop near ds1's school. He really liked this idea and was soon fed up of the doughnuts but kept on pooing in the toilet.

Good luck I don't think I could have handled 6 months of it.

ds was nearly 3 though so I was a lot more strict.

Don't worry it will come - i was on this site asking the same questions only a few weeks ago and then it just clicked - we had poos everywhere! one even fell out on the floor on a 5* hotel!

DD has gone one step further and has decided that walls and furniture need some extra 'artwork' to brighten the place up. Please, please give some help as patience has now completely run out.

I took Bob to the oxidation ponds and talked about how that was where the poos and wees were supposed to go. He liked looking at the birds and the trees and we have had a little more success. When he did a poo in the potty we got in the car to "chase" it too the special poo pond.

I really don't think you should be worrying about this with a 2 year old. DS is 5 in April and still refuses to use the toilet other than at home; this results in him holding back his poo, which in turn means after a while some leaks out and we get skiddy pants! (delightful). Or (worse) he'll end up being desperate to go but won't say anything and holds on until he can hold back no longerand poos his pants. BUT a star chart is working well nowpooing in the right place earns a star, 10 stars earn a present. Only really started working well when we stopped buying him any other presents so he had to earn stars to get anything.