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Devastated.

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Amai · 30/10/2005 22:18

Was told that i would never make a teacher and could not be trusted to take classes. Also if i continue my Teacher training i would fail. This was by a woman who hadn't even seen me teach. She also said she wouldnt put her 12 year old daughter in one of my classes.

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hunkermunker · 30/10/2005 22:19

What do people who have seen you teach say?

Who is this woman? Anyone who has any sway over your future?

startingtobehalloweenylover · 30/10/2005 22:20

amai don't be devastated... it sounds like it's this woman who has the problem... not you!

QueenVictoria · 30/10/2005 22:22

Details amai!

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puff · 30/10/2005 22:24

Can you explain a bit more Amai? Are you doing a BEd or PGCE?

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Amai · 30/10/2005 22:27

she is the deputy head of the school and made me cry. I was a bit slack on lesson plans but enjoyed the teaching part and thought i was improving. After the impromptu meeting with her meant to be on my progress she just confirmed every little doubt i have ever had. I wanted to continue but found myself in floods of tears and unable to justify staying. She said i had options but after everything she said i just couldnt face coninuing especially as she was going to be breathing down my neck. I should really go to bed but it has been eating me up and I wanted to air this with complete strangers!

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hunkermunker · 30/10/2005 22:29

But if she's never seen you teach, she shouldn't have said any of that!

Sorry you're feeling so rotten about it

gigglinggoblin · 30/10/2005 22:30

i would talk to someone who knows you and has seen you working. it may just be this woman has pmt

puff · 30/10/2005 22:30

Amai, are you doing your teacher training through the school, or with a university/college?

Don't let the head destroy your confidence over this.

How long into your training are you?

QueenVictoria · 30/10/2005 22:30

The best thing you can do is prove her wrong.

Dont allow her to fulfill her prophecy IYSWIM.

That aside, she clearly is lacking in training/people skills to be blunt with you like that in a review meeting.

puff · 30/10/2005 22:30

sorry, deputy head

startingtobehalloweenylover · 30/10/2005 22:32

oh amai i am so sorry to hear that
she sounds like a witch! please don't give up based on one persons opinion of you

is there someone higher up that you could talk to about this? even if she does have concerns there is no need to make you feel like that. she should be figuring out ways of helping you improve.. not putting you down

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Amai · 30/10/2005 22:32

Doing a Part time flexible PGCE. Three of my friends on the course have been offered jobs at their placements. I just though every trainee was meant to be fairly crap but i must have been exceptionally bad to merit this telling off. Not going back to that school although it was a nice cycle ride through the park and the kids were great. dont even want to go to another school now.

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startingtobehalloweenylover · 30/10/2005 22:33

amai has anyone else ever said this to you?

if not then it is HER with the problem. I would complain about her and then carry on with your course and become a fantastic teacher!

madrose · 30/10/2005 22:34

She was probably having a bad day and took it out on you. You must go back, this woman has been quite unprofessional. she is suppose to be supporting you and helping you to move forward and develop. Have you spoken to your mentor? Someone at Uni? I'm sending you hugs [[[[hugs]]]]] but please don;t let this women get to you. If you believe that you can do it you can. Good luck and thinking of you

puff · 30/10/2005 22:38

Amai, this is one person who as you say, has not seen you teach. Unfortunately, there are some people (a minority I hasten to add) in the teaching profession who are seriously lacking in communication skills, they may be great with children but have no idea how to communicate appropriately with other adults!

Do not give up on your PGCE because of a bully which is what she is.

Do you have a personal tutor? Talk to them asap and try to regroup yourself and your confidence. if there are areas you need to improve on, get a clear idea of what they are for your next teaching practice. You should not have been spoken to in this way, it was very unprofessional.

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Amai · 30/10/2005 22:41

halloweey my mentor should have told me that she had a arranged this meeting and why. She never said i was crap in fact she said i would pass but i needed to improve on various 'standards'. At the meeting alist of 20 things i had to improve on was presented to me. I had no problems with the list but the Dep Head said they were all areas of concern. Many were overlapping and could have been put as one point. She gave me no advice on how to deal with any of them and just wrote me off.

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cod · 30/10/2005 22:44

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startingtobehalloweenylover · 30/10/2005 22:45

she sounds horrible, and i really wouldn't give up on your future career just because of what she has said.

if there are areas of concern then speak to your mentor about what you can do to improve... you're learning! you're not supposed to be a fantastic teacher yet! f you were you wouldn't need to be on the course

i think that a desire to teach and an enthusiastic nature are the most important things a teacher can have

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Amai · 30/10/2005 22:49

I agree madraose and puff. I am at Brunel and our tutors have changed this year as the one we started with have retired or changed jobs. I told the new tutor my problem and he just said 'it seems you have broken ties with this school let me see you observations and turtorial meetings etc and we will see what to do'. He Said the Dep head called him but i did not ask what she said as i thought that wouldnt be, you know, correct.
QVic I wish i had that sort of drive and determination but at the moment any how i am too cut up.

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Amai · 30/10/2005 22:51

Thats what i thought cod. God bless your honesty.

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roisin · 30/10/2005 22:52

When did you start Amai? Are you in secondary or primary school? I realise this woman was not very sensitive, but do you agree with what she is saying, or not? (Even though it's hard to take.)

I must admit I think a lot of the "being a good teacher" stuff is down to force of personality, and "presence" at the front of the classroom. You can learn a lot, but at a very basic level you've either got it or you haven't.

There are plenty of teachers out there who "haven't got it", but personally I wouldn't want to be anything less than a good teacher.

puff · 30/10/2005 22:55

You need to put this behind you. If you have been told you should pass the course, then you must have some aptitude for it. One of my friends on my PGCE had a horrendous placement in a school which went badly (the teacher resented having a student and took it out on her basically). But, my friend dusted herself off, carried on and her other practices went brilliantly and of course she passed.

cod · 30/10/2005 22:56

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puff · 30/10/2005 23:00

You're right cod, but was this one particular school? Things might go well elsewhere, I wouldn't jack it in yet, talk at length with your tutor and ask them to be frank with you (but professional ).

QueenVictoria · 30/10/2005 23:01

I agree, its tough when you get a knock such as you have. Obviously you need to recoil and gather your thoughts.

I just believe that its often circumstances like these are the making of some people. This could be your lucky break if you are positive about it. Either that or you will live up to this womans expectations.

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