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could this be innocent?

7 replies

bombalulu · 05/04/2011 10:48

my dd1 is in year 1, so the kids are 5 and 6 years old. Apparently yesterday, 1 of the little girls pulled down her pants and asked 1 of the boys to kiss her 'front bum'.

My initial reaction is shock and worry that something untoward is/has happened, or that the child has seen something she shouldnt have....BUT...this is the 2nd child that I have heard of to be doing stuff like this. The first was a girl of the same age that was 'kissing' a little boys willy.

Do some kids do this???????????

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2BoysTooLoud · 05/04/2011 12:03

Is this at school? If it was I would mention it to the teacher so they could keep an eye out for inappropriate behaviour in the playground.

2BoysTooLoud · 05/04/2011 12:03

I would be concerned - seems to be a step up from 'curiosity' to me...

claricebeansmum · 05/04/2011 12:06

I concur with others - doesn't seem quite normal - step beyond 'show me yours and I'll show mine". Seems that these children have been exposed to things that perhaps they should not have. I would have a quiet word with teacher.

luluzulu · 05/04/2011 19:53

i would def take your concerns to the head teacher maybe they can keep a watchful eye on the child and her family, you never know the child might be suffering and no-one does anything. it does seem a little bit too inappropriate for a child of that age. poor thing

LargeLatte · 05/04/2011 20:15

Fair to be concerned I think. Ds is in Yr 1 and we have had our fair share of conversations about kissing on lips, and 'can I show so-and-so my willy' but never heard of this. It could be just one child has displayed this behaviour and others are copying, but you should definitely talk to someone at the school (Head or anyone else you trust).

We have a little mantra in our house - as we have two boys - you can touch your willy in the bathroom, or in your bedroom - you do not touch anyone elses willy - noone else ever touches your willy.

tomhardyismydh · 05/04/2011 20:23

she may have seen something she shouldnt, or mimiking someonelses behaviour even seen another child doing it. it doesnt mean she is being abused i do thing there are always one or two kids who do, i certanly encountered them as a child.

i would mention this to the teacher though as they can manage and monitor incase there are any consernes.

speakercorner · 05/04/2011 20:34

I think that really is very very strange, and I would definitely talk to the teacher straight away. Kissing someone's genitals is way beyond normal experimentation at this age.

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