Starting too early or not?

[Em32]

Ds is almost 21 months. We've had a potty around for a while and he was sitting on it now and again. He's now managed a couple of pees and a very small pooh (but that upset him!) when I just happened to have put him on it in the evening. He now seems to know when he needs a pee as he looks really uncomfortable, pulls at his nappy and yesterday we got him on it in time and he managed to pee......but he can't actually verbalise it. His language is improving rapidly (has one or two short sentences and lots of words) - should I wait until he can actually say he needs to go or start now? My instinct is to wait but any advice? Thanks

I just had our potty by our toilet and when i went i asked DD if she needed to (she understood alot of things before she could verbalise). I never pushed it and it only took a few months. She was around about the same age. She is still in nappies at night at the moment though but they are getting drier and drier.

My opinion is always to leave it till later. I know lots of people who have potty trained at around 2 or just before adn they do crack it but they go through weeks or months of having accidents first.

I've done both ds1 and ds2 at 2.9/2.10 and it's seriously been a doddle! Ds1 cracked it in 3 days and has had maybe 2 accidents since (he's 4.5 now though!). Ds2 I just did from last Monday and by day 2 he was doing all his wees on the potty - not had an accident yet. Took him till day 5 to do his poo on the toilet.

I do think it's much easier when they can verbalise and my view is, what's the rush?!

The whole thing has been far less stressful for me than it has for any of my friends who I have seen constantly changing wet adn dirty pants while out.

My dd2 was 21 months and I thought she was far too young but she was ready and she was done in about 3 days with very few accidents. I always say wait til they are ready because I've seen some people having nightmares for months. But some are ready at 21 months. My dd2 could probably verbalise it at that time though (hard to remember 4 years ago now!!) so not sure what to suggest if he can't tell you - find a sign he could give you?

My 18 monther is dry during the day and after naps and 50% of the time wakes dry in the mornings. He HATES nappies and tells me when he needs to go (although if he is heavily engrossed in something I will have to remind him and then he goes)

Thanks all - have asked the nursery too (he goes part time) They've said to wait until next year but encourage him. Very glad of their help really, hopefully it will make things easier.....