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Getting help as a parent

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Helpinghand1 · 01/04/2011 11:34

How would people feel about approaching someone professional for help with parenting? Throughout the country there are presently a number of people specifically trained to help parents.

How would people feel about approaching these services - is there a stigma or would you see it at a trip to parenting B&Q - a way of getting some new tools to help with the job? Would you pay for this service or do you think it should be provided for you?

Thanks for your help with this.

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thinkingkindly · 01/04/2011 11:37

Lots of my friends have done the triple P parenting course, and one paid for a parenting course which she says is the best thing she has ever done. Why are you asking?

GypsyMoth · 01/04/2011 11:38

i've been offered parenting support from YOT....so am taking it,breaking point already reached in this house!!

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Helpinghand1 · 01/04/2011 11:53

I have been doing parenting work for a number of years now - from running groups with postnatal mums to working with the parents of teenagers, most recently for the local authority - but it looks like redundancy is looming and I am thinking of going into business for myself. (That's the reason behind the question)

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NettoSuperstar · 01/04/2011 11:57

I'm searching out help atm, because I can no longer deal with some of DD's behaviour.

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Helpinghand1 · 01/04/2011 12:03

What is the age and nature of the prob? Maybe I can point you in the right direction...

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nailak · 01/04/2011 12:09

i am plannin to contact the childrens centre family worker to et my husband referred to tripple p course, as i know them and attend and have a ood relationship with them i feel happpy to do so, but if thy were straners it would be diff.

Firawla · 01/04/2011 12:30

same as naila, i will ask for help, advice and support from childrens centre when i need it because i know them but not from a stranger

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Helpinghand1 · 01/04/2011 12:34

What about when your children are over 5? Who might you approach then - school maybe or doctors?

By the way I appreciate all your responses to this - thank you for taking the time to comment.

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GypsyMoth · 01/04/2011 12:58

helping......my problem is teenage dd. on the teenagers board alot of us are suffering. there doesnt seem to be a solution for alot of us.

areas that need help are;

laziness
rudeness/lack of respect
aggression aimed at siblings
school refusal
pushing ALL boundaries with the 'well,you cant make me' attitude

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Helpinghand1 · 01/04/2011 13:02

The YOT course will probably be useful then - there are a number of different strategies out there. Despite all the issues though, one thing that really seems to help is to try and notice even the smallest good thing that your child does, and say thanks (not sarcastically!)

I hope the course works for you.

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NettoSuperstar · 01/04/2011 13:52

I've been to school several times and they fobbed me off. I've now been to my GP who is also going to speak to the school, and I'm going back with DD to see him next week. I went on my own first so I could talk without DD being there.
I'd rather not need help at all, but I feel I'm a better mother for admitting there's a problem that I can't deal with and getting outside help for it.

DD's problem is stealing btw, amongst general rudeness/never doing as she's told/talking to me like I'm dirt etc.
She's 9.

There may be a link with me being seriously ill, though this has gone on longer than that, but for that reason I'm happy to approach my GP as he knows my medical history and the things DD has gone through relating to it.

thinkingkindly · 01/04/2011 14:03

Helping, I think there would be a market for parenting courses run well, in niceish surroundings. My friend paid £200 for hers (can't remember what form it took). You'd have to pick your area, and market very well!

Carrotsandcelery · 01/04/2011 14:06

I sought help from my health visitor, who was very helpful in my case. Parenting classes have also been made available to all in my area with quite a good uptake. I think some of the advice was very obvious to those who had taken the trouble to investigate problems on their own but to those who hadn't it was very helpful.

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