Parenting ..Is Mother love towards sons unconditional?

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Radio 4 discussion today. (womans Hour) What I like about W.H is they take on any subject involving women. (and make phones in etc seem stilted) Even the great Gabby.

I had never heard this headline discussion done before To generalise , I have always assumed there are more bad dads than mums. And many more deserting dads.

More quarrels between sons and fathers than mums and daughters I write of percentages. I know we can all produce individual uncharacterystic examples.

Me? I am from a very large family of mainly boys. Mothers love was not condidtional But that does not mean she would tolerate everything and anything. (she hid the playing cards on Sundays) And would not accept swearing in the house. But she was supremely tolerant.

I suppose Mothers love to young sons is unconditional But when they are grown ups it could be a different matter

Please dont mention that American contradiction in terms: Tough Love. It
should have been frowned when crossing the pond.

( I find it hard to tolerate that crackpot male driver who blocked the pavement with his car this morning. )

to be honest, I found that Women's Hour discussion pretty pants. The interviewed women were SO POSSESSIVE of their sons, and so adoring & admiring. I was genuinely shocked.

My boys drive me crazy most days.

wtf are you on about?

why would you not love sons unconditionally???

I've just read your post and I have absolutely no idea either what the discussion was about or what your opinions/comments are. Sorry, your OP is just a fuzzy muddle.

Why wouldn't you love your daughters unconditionally too?

Yeah, i was going to say, surely you love your children unconditionally, full stop. That's the point. Although i usually find it's mothers who see no wrong in their sons and fathers who always think their little girls are angels!

Gabby has clearly been on the sauce

I didn't hear this but DH did on his way to a meeting and was telling me. I got the impression it was saying that mothers make a lot of allowances when sons may be thoughtless.

My DCs are older now and I certainly find DD is more considerate and thoughtful (although she is the younger of the two) so I probably do make more allowances for DS

Having said that I love them both unconditionally

Oh no, it was much more than that, Aiming.
Lots of mothers who could see no wrong with their sons, for instance.
There was loads about the pain of having to "share" their sons with son's wives/girlfriends.
And the adoring bond of love between mother and son, on and on it went...
Puketastic, honestly.

I think mother are more likely to love their ds unconditionally than their dds

I don't agree crystalglasses.

What makes you say that?

I grew up with a brother and I have a son and daughter and I don't see that. I think it's down to personality surley?

My mum doesn't see or speak to my brother, hasn't for years, nor do I and believe me - with good reason. We do see his children to various woman and we see and support the poor woman who have come into contact with him.

My mum does have a kind of 'mothers guilt' about not seeing him but on the other hand, there's only so much unconditional you can hand out!

I certainly don't favour my son over my daughter. If either of them were as awful as my brother I wouldn't see them either (god forbid).

I think all parental love is unconditional, but I do think mothers see more of themselves in their daughters, and that might colour their relationships. They see the best of themselves, but also the worst of themselves. Mothers of sons - it's a different relationship. They're the great unknown - a constant source of surprise (to me, at least).

Most mothers I've known have uncritically adored their sons no matter what, whereas mums of daughters.....