3 month old. Driving me mad and no return address

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OK! I am just moaning. So be warned and don't read on if you can't face another new mother rant.

My DD is nearly 3 months and while I LOVE her to bits I also wouldn't mind sending her back for a day...or two...possible three. Her routines which have never been set in stone are getting more eroded by the day. Partly due to my desire to get out and thus throw everything in the air and an easy life...yes if she gets too fractious I stick my boob in her mouth.

She seems to be sleeping a lot. She wakes for about an hour is pleasant for 30 minutes then gets grumpy and only wants me to carry her around while she glares at things. OH...I am being horrid. I do love her but it's so bloody hard to do anything with her. Is she board??? Tired??? I DON'T KNOW

Advice or a kick up the backside needed

No advice and no kick up the backside, ...but you will get through it.

If you feel at any point that things really are getting too much for you get in contact with your HV.

No help I know, but you're not alone and you will make it through.

xxx

You're not doing anything wrong. In fact you seem to have the right idea - carry / hold baby while baby glares at stuff, feed the baby, feed the baby, feed the baby, attempt to leave house in order to not go stark staring mad etc. It's just they don't do a right lot at this age do they?!

It does get better with time... quite unexpectedly I found myself one day with 11month old dd who could walk (?!!!) enjoyed going out to do anything, and feeding her meant just putting the food in front of her and letting her get on with it (bliss!) She also went to sleep at night and was awake during the day!

I can't promise that your little one will be the exactly the same, but I promise the intensity of the new baby thing will improve. You will be able to go to the loo uninterrupted and make and eat a sandwich in the same sitting. Plus it's so much better when they can talk and chatter and demand hugs and kisses

Hang on in there...

She probably just likes being held.... I have a 4 month old that I swear has an in-built motion detector! If I'm on the move he's happy to look around or just be carried but if I sit down... Oh the joys !!! I have found the play gym useful as he loves reaching for things dangling above his head - that usually gives me 15 minutes to get something done.

Definitely no kick up the backside required though, just keep telling yourself it won't last forever.

I would just carry her a lot (get a good sling), stick a boob in her mouth if she complains, get out and about as much as possible and forget about routines for another 3 months.

Have you got a sling, we had a babybjorn (with lumbar support). I stuck my ds in it a lot at that age and got on with life. Ds learned to sleep in buggy and on the move. If you get knackered sleeping on the sofa with DC in the baby bjorn works quite well too - i was always scared of co-sleeping incase i crushed DS but in the babybjorn he was held on my tummy and i couldn't roll onto him.
We also got a very cheap baby bouncy seat (that vibrated too) like this
www.mothercare.com/Mothercare-Spring-Bouncing-Cradle/dp/B0030G6IES?ie=UTF8&ref=sr_1_1&nodeId=42764041&sr=1-1&qid=1301225095&pf_rd_r=0D3728H5RVZPF8DAQY2F&pf_rd_m=A2LBKNDJ2KZUGQ&pf_rd_t=301&pf_rd_i=0&pf_rd_p=231490887&pf_rd_s=center-7
DS was put in this while we ate dinner - you can bounce them with your foot while you eat.
don't worry about the routine, she'll develop one over time but at 3 months its easier just to respond to her like you are doing - ie give her a boob when she yells and let her sleep when she wants to.